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Curiosity Cannot Be Forced. It Has To Be Sparked.

This has been on my mind today…

I think about curiosity all the time.

As a dad. As a CEO at Schoolio.

Academics can be taught. With enough repetition, most kids can memorize what they need to pass a test. The system is built for that.

But curiosity is different.

Curiosity cannot be forced. It cannot be assigned. It cannot be graded into existence.

It has to be sparked. And once it is sparked, it has to be protected.

Growing up South Asian, curiosity was not exactly encouraged. The path was clear. Study hard. Choose the right career. Do not wander. Wandering looked risky. Distracting. Like falling behind.

Curiosity pulls you sideways. The system pulls you forward.

That tension shapes a lot of childhoods.

We designed Schoolio to spark curiosity. Short lessons. Flexible pacing. Space to explore. Room to ask why.

But here is the real tension.

If parents do not embrace curiosity as the goal, we drift back to measuring the wrong thing. We focus on the grade. The percentage. The transcript.

Grades are easy to track. Curiosity is not.

And yet, as adults, it is curiosity that drives innovation. It builds companies. It fuels reinvention. It is what pushes someone to keep learning long after school is over.

No one asks what your grade was in middle school science.

But the ability to ask better questions. That follows you for life.

At Schoolio, academics matter. Mastery matters.

But curiosity is the engine.

Our job is not just to help kids pass.

It is to help them stay curious long enough to build something meaningful with what they learn.

Sathish

still learning, still unlearning

Fear Says “Fit In.” Values Say “Stay Firm.”

This has been on my mind today…

Most of us were raised with fear dressed up as discipline.

Fear of standing out.

Fear of falling behind.

Fear of being different — or being too much of something.

When I was growing up, that fear had a thousand voices:

“Don’t talk back.”

“Respect your elders.”

“Just do what you’re told.”

“Don’t embarrass the family.”

South Asian homes are particularly good at this — teaching you to blend in so well that, one day, you wake up and realize you don’t even know what you stand for. You’ve become a collage of other people’s expectations. You chase safety instead of passion. Approval instead of purpose.

That’s why, now as a father, I keep coming back to one truth:

Fear says “fit in.”

Values say “stay firm.”

And if I want my kids to stay firm — to know who they are, to know when to walk away, to know what matters even when it’s unpopular — then I have to show them how.

Not lecture them.

Not shame them.

Not compare them to anyone else.

Just live it.

That means letting them speak, even if I disagree.

Letting them dress how they want, even if I don’t get it.

Letting them explore paths I didn’t choose — or couldn’t.

It also means apologizing when I parent from fear instead of from values.

Because I still catch myself doing it.

If you’ve chosen to homeschool, to opt out of the system, to rewire how learning happens in your house — then you already know this feeling. The discomfort of not fitting in. The awkward pauses in family conversations. The well-meaning but judgmental stares from old friends.

Let them come.

Let fear have its moment.

But then let your values speak louder.

You didn’t choose this path because it was easy. You chose it because it was right.

And if your kids learn anything from you, let it be this:

The world doesn’t need more people who know how to fit in.

It needs more people brave enough to stay firm.

—Sathish

still learning, still unlearning