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10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational!

10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational!

By Chelsea McLeod

It’s the time of the year when we are approaching March breaks in various areas across the US and Canada and the Easter Holidays are right around the corner! Everyone loves these breaks because we have more freedom to gather with family and spend time connecting apart from our usually busy lives. Therefore by learning these 10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational!

These school breaks are scheduled into the traditional school calendar. In homeschooling, whether or not you choose to take a break, they can still bring a change in routine and focus or a break from extra-curricular activities. Therefore kids, often get some much-needed space for reflection, rest and connection with loved ones, even if they are still homeschooling. More often than not, they can also come with commitments and travelling as tournaments or competitions are often scheduled during this time to align with the traditional school calendar. Therefore, even as homeschoolers, our regular academic focus is put on hold.

This is alright; it’s good to take a break from the everyday routine and bustle of homeschooling life. In a previous blog, we discussed why taking a break from schooling is so important. It is needed for both learners and teachers and provides much-needed rest. Okay, you ask, but what do I do during these breaks to keep encouraging learning? I want to take a break but do not want all of our schooling progress to go entirely out the window. I have taken the time to compile a short list of things you can do over the break.

10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational! 

1. Read for fun

10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational

Reading is one of the best ways to bond with your kids. Snuggling up with a good book creates meaningful and focused time where you can connect.

For younger children, you may read the book; however, for older school-age kids, you may take turns. So while you and your child take turns reading to each other this holiday break, remember that some crucial brain development is occurring. Reading gives the brain a workout in the same way that going on a run improves cardiovascular health. So make sure to devote quiet time to reading. Older kids may want to read a novel and discuss it with you rather than take turns. 

Reading is so essential and needs not to be associated only with learning. Some kids will say that they “don’t like reading,” but when you get down to it, this is mainly because when they are learning, they do not get to choose what they read. This can make it frustrating for them and sometimes make it hard for them to stay engaged because reading in a learning context is not always catered to their interests. So on this holiday break, encourage your kids to choose a book/or a few books they like and want to read and set aside time each day to do so together.

2. Write Thank You Notes or Holiday Cards 

Writing is an essential part of Schooling, but it is something we do in other aspects of our lives and holidays are no different. There is often a list of Holiday Cards to write and send out to family and friends. Also, if you celebrate a holiday in which gift-giving is a part of your traditions, have your kids write personalized thank-you notes to the gift-giver. These writing tasks are perfect for your kids to keep their writing fingers nimble and their brains ready for action!

3. Bake Together

For many, the holidays are filled with savoury and sweet treats. The family gatherings are loaded with all kinds of food and traditional desserts. The big task is to bake these items before attending various family and community events. So why not take advantage of this, make some delicious winter recipes, and indulge in math and science?

Next time you are in the kitchen preparing for your festivities, encourage your child to help bake cookies, but maybe double or triple the batch so they can practice their measurement skills. You can also discuss the techniques you might use to achieve a specific cookie texture or the science of how the oven works. And it’s time to serve those squares, cookies or pie masterpieces; use fractions to figure out how much is left over for another time!

4. Take a trip to the Library

Libraries may seem tedious at first glance but look closer; there are so many adventures within those walls. There are more rows and books than can fit on the shelves at home. There are more books than you’ll know what to do with! Whether reading a new series or an old favourite, there is always something to find at the library. In addition to enhancing reading comprehension, you can get your child a library card and teach responsibility. Finally, many libraries are full of children’s programs and classes to interest children of all ages!

5. Visit a museum or science centre

Fun things to do during the holidays

If you are like those of us who live in a cold climate, you may have to keep your kids indoors more than you would like due to sub-zero temperatures and the risk of frostbite. In this case, kids can get pretty stir-crazy and need a change of scenery, which will help preserve the house and your sanity.  So if you need to get out of the house, take your children to a local museum, aquarium, or science centre and explore together. During your regular schooling routine, it might be difficult for your family to take the time for these trips; yet they can be educational, rewarding, and fun for the whole family!

6. Play Board Games

Holidays bring with them a break from the usual schedule and the business of life. So, sitting down with your family this season and playing games is a great way to connect and develop social and intellectual skills.  Playing board games can help kids expand on critical thinking skills such as strategy, analysis, and planning. Also, board games can help to improve basic schooling skills such as addition, subtraction, and reading comprehension. So don’t feel guilty about playing games; you are all getting an intellectual workout while enjoying some downtime together!

7. Solve puzzles

Be it Jigsaws, sudoku, crosswords, or search-a-words…all puzzles are fantastic. Whether you sit down together and complete a puzzle or spend some time alone working through it, they are a great way to challenge yourself and give your brain a workout over the holidays. So why not give your family a new puzzle under the tree for Christmas (if that’s what you celebrate), enjoy some quality time together, and work on developing those problem-solving skills together?

8. Handmake gifts

10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational

A gift made by hand carries a more special and heartfelt meaning than one from the store. The time and effort of your labour show your love for the recipient. If you have a list of gifts to give this holiday season, consider making them. Gather all your craft supplies; markers, glue, pipe cleaners, glitter, and scissors.

Also, you can let your kids raid the kitchen for additional supplies such as macaroni, marshmallows, graham crackers, and candy canes; these are great for DIY holiday gifts. You can search Pinterest for inspiration or let their imagination take over and know that this is an excellent way for your kiddos to work those creative muscles.

9. Create a family tree 

Time for a history lesson! Explore your family history and research your heritage together to compile a family tree. Many families spend the holiday season with their extended family, which makes it a fantastic opportunity to encourage your children to take an interest in learning about their heritage. While appreciating a slower season and spending time with your immediate family, take the time to reflect on where the various branches of your family have come from.

Have your kids come up with a list of questions they could ask of older family members. It’s also a unique way to hear family stories and learn about the childhood experiences of older relatives that you may not have previously heard. Everyone, young and old, will enjoy going down memory lane together and connecting over these stories of their lived experience.

10. Stay active

The last of our ten ways to keep fun and learning happening during a school break is to stay active. If you live in a colder area, staying snuggled up with a bowl of popcorn and Netflix may be tempting. While this can be a relaxing way to spend time with the family, doing something active is another great way to enjoy family time over the holidays.

So if you can, and the temperatures in your area allow for it, get moving! Take your kids skating, sledding or out to make a snowman. Fresh air and activity are both great for developing brains. Kids also experience many other benefits from exercise, including maintaining strong bones, muscles, and joints.

Kids who exercise also improve the quality and quantity of their sleep, which means they will be even more well-rested when they choose to resume schooling after the break! Now, if you live in a much colder climate and are in the middle of a cold snap where you cannot spend time outside, you can still keep your kiddos active indoors. Get them to join you for yoga, play some active video games such as Wii Fit (bowling, step aerobics, dancing, etc.) or engage in other healthy fitness activities while still staying warm!

A time to rest and reflect.

During this holiday season, no matter what holidays you celebrate, there are many ways to keep fun and learning happening. This season often brings a slower pace and time to rest, reflect and make space for other activities. A break from our regular schooling routine can lend itself to a necessary reset for the whole family, but it doesn’t have to be a complete departure from learning.

And sometimes, for parents concerned about the gap in learning, there are numerous ways to keep kids’ brains working, even if they don’t know!  So take a look at the list of 10 Innovative Ways You Can Keep School Break Fun And Educational and choose one or all of these things to do with your family, and rest assured that the break won’t take away all of the academic progress you and your kids have made.

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10 Creative Things To Do When It’s Cold Outside

10 Creative Things to Do When It’s Cold Outside

If you are anything like me, you live in a colder climate which means that for 5-6 months out of the year, there is snow on the ground, and the temperature often dips low enough that you shouldn’t spend long periods outdoors. If this sounds familiar, you are likely internally celebrating that it’s almost the end of January, which means it’s the halfway point of winter. In my area, we have had many days where the temperature dips dangerously low, sometimes for weeks on end; -50 degrees Celsius or -58 degrees Fahrenheit for the Americans reading this. Keep reading for 10 creative things to do when it’s cold outside and discover some fun ideas to keep your kids entertained indoors!

Keeping the kids entertained can be a challenge on cold days. This list can make it much easier!

This means that the chance for frostbite and other things rises significantly, and it is essential to keep ourselves entertained inside, which can be pretty challenging when you have children. In our area, this also means indoor recess for those kids who attend mainstream school. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying just to put them in front of a screen and hope for the best.

Also, you can only watch so much kids’ TV before you are going to lose your grip on reality, right?! But how do you entertain kids for a few days to a week? I mean, even I get bored if I spend too much time indoors, so what could I possibly do with my kids?

Our list of 10 creative things to do when it’s cold outside can help take away the stress of coming up with your own ideas.

“Anything can be fun with the right attitude and if your kiddos are engaged, they might even forget that they wanted to go outside!”

First, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to go outside to have fun! I know what you’re thinking; how do I convince my kids to stare out the window, longing to play in the snow? Well, the first step is to focus not on what you can’t do and shift the focus to what you can. Plenty of indoor activities keep you going even if you have to stay in a house where it’s warm. Keep reading to discover an easy list of 10 creative things to do when it’s cold outside.

Anything can be fun with the right attitude, and if your kiddos are engaged, they might even forget that they wanted to go outside! Read on to discover ten things to do with your kids when it’s too cold outside; these are just the beginning that you can use to keep your kiddos occupied when it’s too cold to go outside to play.

Here is a list of 10 Creative Things To Do When When You Can’t Go Outside:

1. Make a Craft

10 creative things to do when it's cold outside

Kids love crafts, and even if you are not the most creative or crafty person, you can also learn to love them. No, you don’t have to use glitter or make slime. There are so many ideas on the internet that will spark your imagination and give your kiddos something fun to do. They will feel proud that they accomplished something and might even develop a game to play using what they made, turning this one activity into two!

2. Make/Play a Board Game

This might be a better activity for older children as it can take some higher-level thinking. You can dream up all the parts together and make them with whatever you have. Your board game can be inspired by a favourite book, TV show, or just out of your kids’ imaginations. Your kids can design their board, characters, action cards, spinner, or dice! Once you have planned this and created the pieces, you can sit together and play the game!

3. Build a Fort 

A fort is always a good idea! You can use blankets, pillows, sheets or even an old small tent if you have the space. They can get set up to watch movies or read books, or it can be a great place to do their school work for the day, all while keeping their mind off the temperature outside.

4. Do a Science Experiment

You don’t have to focus only on the fun; you can also include academics into your inside day.  Head to the kitchen and make a volcano or see how long ice melts in different temperatures, whatever you want. You can tailor it to what you currently do in science or do a fun one-time experiment. It’s up to you!

5. Read a Book or a Series 

A cold day can be the perfect time for reading. You can read together or make separate spots to read depending on the age of your kids. You could also pick a book or series to read as a marathon. Maybe today is the day you start the Harry Potter series with your kids, or maybe introduce your older kids to the Hunger Games or Divergent books. The sky’s the limit; let your interests and reading levels guide you to the right choices, and spend a cozy day immersing yourself in the imaginary world of your choice.

10 creative things to do when it's cold outside

6. Write a Story or a Play and Act it Out

Like the board game suggestion above, take inspiration from anything you want and write a story or play with your kids. Once you have it written, you could design a set and find props to act it together.

7. Bake Something 

Spend some quality time together in the kitchen. You can encourage your kids to practice their reading and measurement skills and get something yummy out of the deal!

10 creative things to do when it's cold outside

8. Do an Art Project

Sit those kids down at the table and pull out all the art supplies. Have them draw, paint, and imagine to their heart’s desire. They will have fun creating something they love.  

9. Have a Dance Party

You can do active things indoors as well. Put on some of your favourite music and dance together. This is fun and can give you a little exercise while you’re at it. Show off those moves!

 10. Watch a Movie

Sometimes, everyone needs just a little downtime, and we don’t always take the time we need with today’s busy schedules. So why not take the opportunity to cuddle up and watch your favourite movie? It’s a great way to spend some time together, and it takes minimal prep from you.

10 creative things to do when it's cold outside

Being stuck inside can be fun!

I know it can be a long stretch being stuck indoors if the temperature dips too many days in a row but fear not. There are many, many activities you can do even when you can’t go outside. These 10 creative things to do when it’s cold outside can help to pass the time. So why not take a suggestion or two from the above list and take their focus away from the window and all the things they aren’t able to do. Stay warm and enjoy! 


Remember to take care of yourself. 

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6 Reasons Why It’s Important To Encourage Multi-Age Play

Children are naturally curious and sociable beings. They love to explore, learn and play with others. As a parent, you want the best for your child; you want them to be happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. However, when it comes to playtime, parents may be hesitant to let their children play with kids of all ages. This is understandable for several reasons, one being that parents may want to ensure their children’s safety. However, there in fact several known benefits of encouraging children to play with peers of various ages. Encouraging your children to play with kids of all ages has a positive impact on their social emotional development. In this blog, we will discuss the 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play.

It’s Important to Encourage Multi-Age Play; It Sets Children Up Both Personally and Professionally

Here Is A List Of Our 6 Reasons Why It’s Important To Encourage Multi-Age Play:

Playing Across Ages Builds Empathy and Understanding

When you follow these 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play, you can help children learn to empathize with others and understand different perspectives. Playing with kids of all ages can help your child develop empathy. By interacting with others who are different from them, children learn to understand and appreciate different perspectives and experiences. This can help them become more compassionate and understanding individuals. Also, while playing with kids of all ages, children see their metaphorical journey reflected in the overall group. They see what lies ahead of them, as well as what they’ve already gone through. This helps build empathy for others, regardless for others, no matter their age or abilities.

6 reasons why it's important to encourage multi-age play

Inter-Age Play Develops Social Skills

Playing with peers of all ages can help develop important social skills. Younger children can learn how to communicate with older children, while older children can practice leadership and communication skills when playing with younger children. Children of different ages also have varying levels of physical and cognitive abilities, which can challenge children to adapt their play style and collaborate with their peers. Children are challenged to design games and cooperate in ways that meet a wider range of needs and skill levels. Younger children learn from older children’s experiences, and older children learn to be patient and nurturing toward their younger peers.

This interaction can foster a sense of community and belonging in children and create a more accepting and inclusive environment. Additionally, when children play with kids of different ages, they learn how to interact with others who have different needs, interests, and abilities. 6 reasons you should encourage multi-age play helps them develop important social skills such as communication, cooperation, empathy, and respect. Playing with older children can also expose younger children to more advanced language and social skills that they can learn from and develop.

6 reasons why it's important to encourage multi-age play

Cross-Age Play Encourages Creativity and Imagination

    When kids play with others of different ages, they are exposed to more diversity. This means that children of different needs, skills, and interests are included. This exposure encourages more complex conversations, problem-solving and critical thinking. Playing with peers of different ages can encourage children to use their imagination and creativity in new ways. When children play with peers of different ages, they are exposed to new perspectives, ideas, and experiences. This can inspire them to think differently and develop new, innovative ways of playing and problem-solving. Older children can introduce younger children to new games and activities that they may not have thought of before. While younger children can bring new perspectives and ideas to playtime. This interaction can inspire children to think outside of the box and explore their creative sides.

    6 reasons why it's important to encourage multi-age play

    Boosts Confidence and Self-Esteem

    Having meaningful interactions with kids of all ages can help boost a child’s confidence and self-esteem. Younger children look up to older role models and develop a sense of confidence from keeping up with older peers. Interacting with older children challenges younger children, which encourages them to push themselves to do better.  Therefore also encouraging younger children to scaffold their learning and challenge themselves in both their cognitive and physical development. Older children will feel pride and accomplishment when they teach younger children new skills. This skill transfer will help younger children to succeed in play. Similarly, younger children look up to older children. In this instance, they rely on them for guidance and support, which can make them feel important and valued. 

    Encouraging Multi-Age Play and Interaction Can Inspire Kids To Problem Solve And Create Innovative Ways To Play

    Promotes Positive Behavior

    When children play with kids of all ages they are exposed to a range of behaviours; helping them to learn what is acceptable and what is not. Older children can model positive behaviours and attitudes for younger children, who can then learn from these examples. 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play can help to promote positive behaviour in your children. It can also discourage negative behaviours, such as bullying and exclusion.

    The presence of younger children allows older children the opportunity to learn about caregiving and leadership roles. This practice of caregiving can also lead older children to take responsibility for more vulnerable members of the group. Moreover, playing with kids of different ages can help your child build friendships with a much wider range of people. This can be especially helpful if your child has trouble making friends their own age. By playing with kids of different ages, they may find kindred spirits who share similar interests, values, or hobbies.

    6 reasons why it's important to encourage multi-age play

    Multi-Age Play Prepares Better Children for the Real World:

    Finally, 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play can impact your child’s future. Playing with kids of all ages will help your child prepare for the real world. When playing and interacting with others of diverse ages, all children are able to experiment. In these groupings, children have space to take on various roles. They can experiment with hierarchies, power dynamics, leadership roles, and group rules in a way that reflects real life. In real life people of all ages interact with each other in a variety of contexts. Therefore, having the ability to communicate and collaborate with people of all ages is a valuable learning opportunity for children. They have the space to prepare for their future personal and professional life without adult consequences.

    6 reasons why it's important to encourage multi-age play

    6 Reasons Why It’s Important To Encourage Multi-Age Play; It Sets Children Up For Life

    In Conclusion;

    There are many benefits that can be seen from our 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play.  Making space for children to play with peers of different ages has a positive impact on their socio-emotional development. In doing so, they develop important social skills, build self-confidence, foster creativity and imagination, encourage empathy, build friendships, foster confidence and self-esteem, promote positive behaviour and finally help to prepare them for the real world. 

    As parents, knowing that this type of mixed-age interaction is crucial for your child’s socio-emotional development; it is, therefore, essential for us to intentionally create opportunities for our children to interact with peers of all ages, whether it’s through playdates, community events, family gatherings or extracurricular activities. By doing so, we can help our children develop important socio-emotional skills that will benefit them throughout their whole lives and can help you to set them up for future personal and professional successes. So, the next time you’re arranging a playdate, consider inviting a child of a different age group and watch your child’s development soar!

    We hope you enjoyed reading about the 6 reasons why it’s important to encourage multi-age play. If you would like to read more helpful articles about child development or homeschooling please visit our Blog. 

                            

    No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way

    By Chelsea McLeod 

    Math is one of the more challenging subjects in school, and it can be difficult for students to see how the concepts they’re learning will be helpful in the real world. Math is more meaningful and engaging for students when we teach real-world applications. By making connections between math and the world around us, we can help our children understand the relevance of their learning. While also seeing how it will benefit them in the future, demonstrating real-world math. In this blog, No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way we will discuss some fantastic ways to help your math lessons become more relevant to your child’s life.

    Math is all around us, making it vital to Add Real-World Context to your child’s education and Teach Math in a Creative Way.

    Unfortunately, many students struggle with math, and it can be challenging to understand why. So frustration and meltdowns can be a very real part of your homeschool day. Many children struggle with math because they do not see it applied in the real world. They can solve a mathematical equation, but do not understand why it matters or how it might come up in their daily lives. So, therefore, why should they care about it or want to learn it? Math is a fundamental skill for students to learn. It is everywhere, in our everyday life, and as such, it is crucial that children develop a strong understanding. So by reading this blog; No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way, you will find some practical strategies to help overcome this.

    To help children better understand math, it is vital to Add Real-World Context and show them how math applies to everyday situations. Connecting math concepts to everyday situations can help your child understand why math is important and give them a better chance of mastering the subject. So say goodbye to your homeschool math struggles with No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way and make Math a subject you and your child both look forward to again.

    No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way

    Does No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way sound like a dream? Here are a few tips to help you make this a reality:

    • Get Visual
      • One of the best ways to help your child understand math is to use visual aids. There are a variety of ways in which you can do this, such as using pictures, models, or diagrams. Visual aids can also help your child understand the concepts they are learning by giving them a better understanding of how to apply these concepts in the real world.
      • If your child is learning how to calculate the area of a triangle, you can use a diagram of a triangle to help them visualize the concept. This can make it easier for them to understand and apply the idea to real-world problems.
    • Use Everyday Examples
      • When teaching math concepts to children, it is vital to provide real-world math examples to help them understand the concept. When teaching about addition, ask your child to help you figure out the cost of groceries at the store.
      • It can also be helpful to provide your child with everyday examples of how to use math concepts. If they are learning how to calculate the volume of a cylinder, show them that a can of soda is a cylinder. Then you can model how to determine the volume of the soda can.
      • By providing your child with examples of how to use math in everyday life, you can help them understand why it’s important and how to apply it to certain situations.
    • Give Examples from Your Own Life
      • You can also give your child examples of how you use math in your own life. For instance; if you’re calculating the cost of groceries, explain how you’re using math. Discuss how much money you’ll need and why. This will give your child a chance to see firsthand how to use math in the real world.
      • Giving your child examples from your own life can help them better understand why math is important. It will also give them a glimpse into how to use math in everyday situations. This will make it easier for them to make connections. It will also help them to feel that the math they are learning is relevant.
    • Allow Your Child to Practice
      • Have your child practice math problems in real-world settings. Give time to practice counting money when they go to the store or making change when they buy something.
      • Help your child make connections between math and everyday activities. For example, measure the ingredients together when baking and explain the importance of exact measurements.
    • Ask Questions & Talk About Math
      • Ask your child questions related to math problems they may encounter in life. Why not ask them to figure out how much change they should receive when making a purchase?
      • Have conversations with your child about the math they learn in school.
      • Take your child to places where they use math. Go to a bank, a grocery store, or a construction site for example and explain they use math at these places.
    • Play Math Games
      • Playing math games is another great way to help your child understand how we use math in the real world. Various math games are available, such as board games, card games, and online games. These games help your child more clearly see how we use math in everyday life and how it can be fun.
      • By playing math games, your child can learn math concepts in a fun and engaging way.
      • When you implement tips from this list, your child will develop a much clearer understanding of how to use math in the real world. As well, it can give them a better chance of mastering the subject. By providing real-world examples, you can help your child understand what they learn.
    • Use Technology & Encourage Problem-Solving
      • Use technology such as apps and websites to help your child learn math in a fun and interactive way.
      •  Allow your child to explore different methods of solving math problems. Encourage them to think about other solutions and work through the problem. Involving your child in real-world problem-solving can help them understand the practical applications of math. Encouraging children to think critically and find solutions to real-world problems will help them see why and why math is important. It will also lead them to develop a greater appreciation for what they’re learning, and how to use it in their lives.
    No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way

    Keep It Fun; Add Real-World Context to math and enjoy your school days with No More Math Meltdowns

    As you may have seen, Math is dull and uninspiring if not put into a real-world context. Many parents struggle to help their children understand the relevance of the math they are learning in school. But don’t worry! There are plenty of ways to make math more meaningful for your child. By adding context to what your child is learning, you can help make math more meaningful and enjoyable. Implementing these suggestions is a surefire way to help your child understand math much better. Take from our list and add the fun back into math!

    Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way to Help Students Develop An Appreciation for Math

    Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way to Help Students Develop An Appreciation for Math

    In conclusion;

    We hope you enjoyed No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way. Clearly understanding how to add real-world context to math will make it more engaging and meaningful for students. By connecting math to everyday activities; we can help our children understand its relevance. We can also help them see how Math will benefit them in the future. These suggestions will help your child develop an appreciation for the value of math. As a result, they will be more motivated to learn and better equipped to succeed. Give it a try and see how it helps your child’s math skills! We hope yours is a future of No More Math Meltdowns!

    Thank you for reading No More Math Meltdowns: How To Add Real-World Context And Teach Math In A Creative Way. We hope that you have learned some real strategies to use in your homeschool day. Hopefully, this will help you make Math enjoyable again for both you and your child. Have you checked out Schoolio Learning’s vast library of math materials? Keep learning fun by diving into Schoolio Math!

    Should You Take a Break From Homeschooling?

    Feeling overwhelmed, tired and frustrated? But still pressing through the list of assignments? When you’re feeling like this, should you take a break from homeschooling? Or should you continue working? And will your kids fall behind if you take a break? 

    Being a homeschooling parent means that you get access to a whole new level of parental guilt. Including the guilt you will feel for taking breaks from school. Homeschooling parents often have trouble justifying their need for time off because they have too much to do, all the time.

    Here’s a bold truth when it comes to homeschooling and breaks. 

    It’s important to remember that you don’t need to wait for certain times of the year to take a much needed break from homeschooling. Maybe you’re sick, or your kids are sick and have been up all night. Should you press into school work? Or should you take a break? The answer is obvious, take a break! Are you encountering a stressful life event? Should you take a break from homeschooling? Or push through? You already know the answer, take a break! 

    Pushing yourself and your children to accomplish assignments during a time of stress or sickness will not benefit anyone. And chances are, your child will not remember a single thing from these forced lessons. Because the brain cannot learn under intense amounts of stress. 

    What if you just took a break? 

    If you just took a break from the daily routine, and are feeling the need for another one. Should you take a break from homeschooling again? The answer is: You can do what your family needs. Maybe your family doesn’t need a total break from homeschooling. But rather a simple break from a certain trouble subject. Maybe you need a break from cooking three meals a day? Or perhaps you need a break from the never ending chores that come with motherhood. 

    As a homeschooling parent you are in a constant state of movement. Maybe you just need to slow down. A full break of everything can sometimes be so nice, and exactly what we need. But as a homeschooling parent you will notice that sometimes homeschooling can get lumped into the same category as laundry, cooking, cleaning and working. All the tasks turn out to be your tasks, and you’re tired of them. 

    So Ask Yourself, Is It a Break From Homeschooling That I Need? Or Do I Just Need to Adjust My Plate? 

    First of all, if you are running your homeschool like a military school, nothing will go smoothly for you. I’m sorry, but it won’t. That’s just a fact. You don’t have to run through Math, Social Studies, Science, Language Arts, Music and Art all on the same day. On the same note, you don’t need to have a beautifully clean home that people walk into and say “Wow how do you do it all?” You also don’t need to prepare three spectacular meals a day. Let’s be honest, no one will eat them all anyway. 

    If you feel like it’s just your plate that needs adjusting.

    That’s totally fine! You are the master of your own life. If you feel like your plate is off balance than it is! It’s up to you to make the right changes to shift the plate to a maintainable balance.

    You can try: Adjusting your school work. 

    Is the non stop curriculum draining you and your kids? Try laying out their curriculum differently each day. Instead of trying to crush all the subjects and grasp all the learning opportunities in one day, shift it around. Is math your challenge subject? Then try mixing a math day with a fun learning opportunity like art. Aim to do just one or two subjects a day. And don’t overdo it! It can be so tempting, when our kids are doing really well with a subject, to try to get them to do more. Do more lessons so you’re ‘ahead’. Or even add in more curriculum books. 

    Trust me when I say: Don’t do that. It’s so much better for your child to learn in a relaxed format. Rather than the chaos of adding more. Often times when you add more to the day, the balance gets totally overturned. 

     

    Using a food delivery service/order take out. 

    I totally understand that take out is not doable every night. Although, I really wish it could be. But if you’ve just had a day that has completely gone off the rails and you’re exhausted. Then order some take out. If you know that Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday are your families problem days, then do yourself a huge favour and either meal plan and prep for those three days or order a meal service. 

    That way you know on those days, that dinner is covered. Because dinner seems to be such a stress point for almost every mom I know. It’s just another thing that you’re expected to do after a busy day. So, planning ahead can be a game changer. 

    Lower the standards. 

    This one is oh, so hard. Especially if you gravitate towards false perfection. Perhaps you just saw a beautiful spread of your friend’s kids lunch on Pinterest. She really cut the strawberries into Mickey Mouse. How do you compete with that? Oh! The answer is so simple! You don’t. When you finally understand that you don’t need to have ridiculous standards, you will free yourself from so much stress and tension. So, your kids ate bagels for breakfast? Instead of potatoes, French toast and a fruit salad? That’s fine! Ok, so your kid had peanut butter and jam sandwiches for lunch? That’s great! You had cereal for dinner? That’s awesome! 

    Now you’re looking at your house and cringing because the laundry has been unfolded by the laundry room door for 4 days. There’s dirty dishes in the sink, and one of your kids tracked mud all through the house? It happens. One thing I have to remind myself, over and over again is that we live here! As much as I’d love to have a model home that just sparkles and shines, it’s unrealistic. Because the truth is that the second I clean the house my kids will destroy it. We live here. Lowering your standards when it comes to cleaning will greatly resolve the negative feelings that you have towards yourself. 

    Outsource when needed.

    There are many areas of your life that you can be outsourcing if you need to. I get that as moms we feel the desire to have it altogether and to accomplish everything on our own. But let’s be honest, is that actually realistic? Were you meant to do all of the things, all of the time, on your own? Absolutely not! Pull out a piece or paper and a pen and write down the areas that you are struggling the most. Teaching the kids math? That’s ok! There are so many resources available to help with that. From online tutors to helpful workbooks. 

    Maybe you’re struggling with just doing a basic clean of your house? That’s totally ok! There are lots of house cleaners available for as cheap as $20 an hour. If you have someone come and help you with cleaning for just three hours every other week. That will cost you a total of $60. Alternatively, you could chat with family or friends to see if there is anyway they could help you here and there. You’d be surprised how often people would really love to help. They just don’t want to ask because they are afraid to offend your independence. And as homeschooling parents we often have a way about us that says “I can do it all! Don’t worry.” But that’s unrealistic. Please ask for help. 

     

    Have mandatory fun days. 

    Days that are dedicated to fun learning. No math or language arts allowed here. This day is all about science, art, and music. You could even make this special school day on a Monday, the day that is so hard to get back into the homeschool groove. Or maybe Wednesday, when everyone has the mid-week boredom. Adding in a fun day can freshen up the whole family and help everyone get back on track. 

    Maybe you’ve done all of these things and you’re still just not feeling it. Should you take a break from homeschooling? 

    Here are some clear signs that you should take a break from homeschooling:

    1. You’re sick. 

    If you’re sick, it’s perfectly normal and healthy to take some time off school. Especially if you’re barely functioning. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. If you need a day off, that’s ok. The truth is, you don’t actually get a day off. Because as parents we are always on duty. Even so, it’s better to take a few things off your plate if you’re feeling unwell. So, put the schoolbooks away, turn on The Magic School Bus, and snuggle up on the couch. 

    2. A Family Emergency. 

    No one wants to deal with the terrifying experiences that family emergencies bring. Therefore, if you’re experiencing a family emergency, you should absolutely take time off from homeschooling. Even if there’s nothing you can directly do about the emergency. Your mind just won’t be in a clear place to teach. Pushing homeschool on a tough day like that will just make learning tricky while triggering high stress levels. Take a break. 

    3. Your Kids are Sick. 

    When your kids are sick they will have a much more difficult time focusing. Blowing their noses, having tummy aches. Rubbing their head from a head ache. Your kids need to rest. And so do you. 

    4. You’re just not prepared for the day. 

    Everyone has those days. And if someone claims that they don’t — they are lying. Instead of stressing trying to make copies and flip through lesson plans. Watch an interesting movie about history, or a documentary instead. Go outside and learn about the weather, or the uniqueness of the trees. Turn those messy, unorganized days into wholesome days that you and your children will remember. 

    5. Your Kids Clearly Need a Break. 

    It’s called a mental health day. And even kids in the public school system take them. Sometimes your kids will need a break. Just like public and private schools have PA days. You also can take days here and there to allow your kids the downtime that they need. 

    6. There’s a Fun Event Planned.

    Learning is all around us. If you have a unique field trip planned to the museum. Then don’t force textbooks on that day. Let the learning come from this fun event or field trip that you have planed instead.

    7. Your Kids Can’t Focus. 

    Some days you will find that your kids just can’t focus. Why does this happen? I really don’t know. Some people say it’s the full moon? But I know for a fact my kids have lost focus when there isn’t a full moon. I really don’t think that anyone knows the reason why our kids sometimes just can’t focus. But if that’s your family. Then close the workbooks and go outside. Go for a long walk, hike or run with your kids. Go to the park. Explore a new neighbourhood. Change up the scenery. Breathe in the fresh air. Let the sun shine on your face. 

    8. It’s Nice Outside. 

    This is a real thing. I’m not even kidding. So many homeschooling families that I know, who have been homeschooling for ten years or more. All say that they take breaks when it’s nice outside. Because no one wants to be stuck inside when the weather is amazing. Perhaps it’s spring and you are itching to plant a garden. Then do it! Planting a garden is an amazing learning experience for your kids. Get outside! If you’re feeling overly guilty about taking a break just because it’s nice outside. Then try moving your homeschool outside or, saving that extra work for the rainy days of summer. 

    You are the only one that can truly speak on behalf of your family and your homeschool. I would say follow your gut. If you feel like school just isn’t a good idea for a day, then take a break. Maybe you feel like you should still be working on some form of school. Then read some books, do an interest based learning unit. Like our Special Interest Units. 

    You don’t need to overwork yourself and your kids while simultaneously draining yourself of everything just because you don’t want to feel guilty for taking a day or two, or even a week off of school. Taking a homeschool break is ok to do sometimes. So, go for it! 

    Homeschooling in Atlantic Canada – How to Get Started

    Homeschooling in Atlantic Canada – How to Get Started 

    Are you considering homeschooling? Or perhaps are new to homeschooling in Atlantic Canada? How do you get started? Where do you begin? And what’s the best route to take in order to be a successful homeschooler? Is homeschooling even legal in Nova Scotia, New Brunswick, Prince Edward Island and Newfoundland & Labrador? We are going to cover each of these provinces unique learning standards for homeschooling. 

    Before we dive into homeschooling in Atlantic Canada Provinces it’s important to select a curriculum that works great for your family. (If you are in Newfoundland & Labrador, please check curriculum standards before selecting curriculum – See below) 

    How do I pick homeschool curriculum? 

    There are hundreds of curriculum options available for homeschooling families now. We recommend that you purchase a Canadian based curriculum. There are so many phenomenal American Homeschooling curriculum options. However, if you are homeschooling in Atlantic Canada, you will find that you have to supplement your curriculum more often than not for Canadian concepts. 

    Here’s an excellent blog about how to pick the very best curriculum for your family: Choosing Homeschool Curriculum

     

    The Basics of Homeschooling in Nova Scotia: 

    The first province we will cover when it comes to homeschooling in Atlantic Canada is Nova Scotia. 

    Let’s start with the basics. 

    Is Homeschooling legal in Nova Scotia? 

    The answer is yes! In fact, homeschooling is legal in each province of Atlantic Canada, but rules do vary. The Department of education in Nova Scotia outlines the legislation for home education. It’s always best to start there when you have questions about homeschooling in Nova Scotia. 

    Does your child need to be registered in Nova Scotia?

    Yes! Parents and guardians in Nova Scotia are required to register their children, ages 6 to 16 in an educational program. First, you will need to register your child for Primary (Kindergarten) whether your child is 5 or 6 years old. Be sure to register them in the year that they will be 5 years old before December 31st. Secondly, you will need to provide a copy of your child’s birth certificate for their first year.

    What are your responsibilities as a home schooling parent in Nova Scotia? 

    First, you need to advise the Department of Education (Halifax Office) of your intent to homeschool your child. 

    Secondly, you need to complete the registration form annually and return it to the Regional Education Office, Halifax, Nova Scotia. For a child that has not been registered in public or homeschool before, you will need to include proof of their age with your registration form. 

    Third, in June you will need to provide a report to the Department of Education (Halifax Office) on the progress of your homeschooled child(ren). This report should be compatible with the program of study of the child(ren). 

    Fourth, you as the homeschool parent need to ensure that your child is diligent in attempting to master their home education studies that had been described in the registration form.

    Fifth, as the primary home education parent you must be prepared to meet with the school board officials if and when the child(ren) are to be enrolled in public school. You are required to provide evidence of your child’s education program. Because as the home-educating parent or guardian, you are responsible to provide solid evidence of your child’s education.

    Where can you find the Registration form? 

    As the homeschooling parent you will need to fill out the registration form for each of your children at the beginning of the school year. Click here to visit the Nova Scotia Department of Education’s Website where you can find the registration form. Overall the registration letter is simply laid out, very straightforward and easy to understand. This form will ask for both you as the parent or guardian and your child’s information along with the name of the curriculum that you are planning on using for that school year. 

    What are the requirements for reporting and grading in Nova Scotia? 

    Every June, the homeschooling parent or guardian must send in another form. This form is called “The Home Schooling Student Report Form.” Click here to view these forms.  The Home Schooling Student Report Form is quick, simple and easy to fill out. You can fill out the subject/course name, test marks, and the overall course grade. Then you can use the little subject boxes to fill out a little more detail and information on the subjects covered in the school year. While also including  your students learned. 

    If you were using Schoolio curriculum and needed to fill out the Science section for Grade 5. You could simply go to the table of contents of your child’s completed Science book. Then write the key lessons that they learned for the year. ‘Forms of Energy, Conservation with Renewable Resources, Electricity, Energy Footprint, Structures’ etc.. 

    If you are registering your child for a primary grade for the first time you simply need to: 

    1. Register with the Department of Education by filling in the form and being sure to submit it in September. 
    2. Make a report on your child’s progress within your areas of study in June each year.

    If your child is attending school already and you’d like to legally withdraw them from school in Nova Scotia:

    1. Be sure to inform the school that you will be homeschooling. Ask them to remove your child from the school register. 
    2. Complete the Nova Scotia Department of Education Homeschooling Registration Form. Being sure to submit it to the Department of Education to register your child as a homeschooler. 

    More information on Homeschooling in Nova Scotia can be found at The Canadian Homeschooler.

     

    The Basics of Homeschooling in New Brunswick: 

    The second province we will cover when it comes to homeschooling in Atlantic Canada is New Brunswick. 

    Let’s start with the basics: Is Homeschooling legal in New Brunswick? 

    Yes! It is every parent’s right to home educate their child in New Brunswick. Moreover, you do not need to have a teacher’s certificate or be a college graduate to homeschool your children. Additionally, there is no reporting or annual testing requirements in New Brunswick. 

    Your first step would be to establish if homeschooling is the right choice for your family.

    The Minister of Education New Brunswick suggests that you answer these 5 questions. 

    1. Adequate Time? 
    2. Do you have Adequate Finances? 
    3. Strong Parenting Skills? 
    4. Do you have Effective Time-Management Skills? 
    5. Common Vision? 

    Families that choose to home educate are asked by the Province of New Brunswick to complete the Annual Homeschool Application Form. Then they are required to forward it to their local school district. 

    Keeping in mind that in order for your homeschool to be considered effective instruction it must include these areas of learning: 

    1. Language Arts 
    2. Mathematics 
    3. Science 
    4. Technology 
    5. Social Studies 
    6. Health 
    7. Career Development 
    8. French 
    9. Music 
    10. Art 
    11. Physical Education 

    What is the Annual Homeschool Application Form? 

    The Annual Homeschool Application Form states that you as the parent or legal guardian are taking full responsibility for the education of your child. Once this application has been submitted, the district office will forward the form to the Minister of Education. Following the submission of the letter, the Minister of Education will send the family a signed letter that states they have been approved to home educate their children for the current year. 

    Here you will find the French and English Annual Homeschooling Application Form: 

    Homeschooling in New Brunswick Recap: 

    • If your child is just starting school, or you are pulling your child out of school to homeschool, you must inform their current school that you are homeschooling.
    • Choose a curriculum that suits your family.
    • Fill out the Annual Homeschool Application Form. 
    • Submit the Homeschooling Application form to the district office. 
    • Await the letter from the Minister of Education for approval. 

    Click here for additional information on homeschooling in New Brunswick.

     

    The Basics of Homeschooling in Prince Edward Island.

    The third province that we will cover when it comes to homeschooling in Atlantic Canada is Prince Edward Island. 

    Is Homeschooling Legal in Prince Edward Island? 

    Yes! Parents are able to home educate their children in Prince Edward Island! They can do so by using a home education program or public education curriculum. 

    How can you legally homeschool your child in Prince Edward Island? 

    You will need to notify the Department of Education and Lifelong Learning that you will be homeschooling your child before the school year begins. Find the Home Education Notice of Intent here. 

    What curriculum are you required to use? 

    You can choose whichever curriculum you would like. In addition to this, there is also another option to access curriculum books with provincial curriculum when home educating your child. At this time the Provincial Curriculum costs $50 per child, and that amount will be refunded once the books have been returned after use. Also it’s important to remember that you as the homeschooling parent are responsible for your child’s curriculum, record keeping and their testing. 

    Homeschooling in Prince Edward Island recap: 

    • If your child is already registered in a school, be sure to notify the school that your child will not be attending. 
    • Fill out the Notice of Parent’s Intention to Homeschool form and notify the Department of Education. 
    • Choose a curriculum that suits your family. 

    For more information on homeschooling in PEI click here.

     

    The Basics of Homeschooling in Newfoundland & Labrador. 

    The fourth province that we will cover when it comes to homeschooling in Atlantic Canada is Newfoundland and Labrador. 

    The first question, is homeschooling legal in Newfoundland and Labrador? 

    Yes! Parents do have the right to homeschool their children in Newfoundland and Labrador. However, there are mandates that local school boards are to monitor the progress of the students that are residing in their district. 

    What are the legal requirements of homeschooling in Newfoundland and Labrador? 

    Parents or legal guardians need to send in an application to homeschool. Moreover, the four regions of the Newfoundland & Labrador English School District have a Homeschool Coordinator who approves applications. The Homeschool Coordinator also oversees the homeschool program. For information on how to fill out the form click the NLESD Homeschooling Application. 

    What curriculum will you be required to use in Newfoundland & Labrador? 

    You can either choose to use the provincial curriculum of Newfoundland & Labrador or you can use any other curriculum which has been previously approved by the EECD. Furthermore, if you don’t want to use an approved curriculum, you will need to provide information about the curriculum to the homeschool coordinator. Then the  homeschool coordinator will assess the curriculum that you would like to use. Doing so to decide whether it meets provincial learning standards. 

    Homeschooling in Newfoundland & Labrador recap: 

    • Notify the school that your child is attending.
    • Find out who the Homeschool Coordinator is for your region.
    • Fill out and send the intent to homeschool form.
    • Choose a curriculum. Remember, if you choose a curriculum that isn’t approved by the EECD, you will need to  include this curriculum in your homeschool plan for the Homeschool Coordinator. 

    For more information: 

     

    Homeschooling in Atlantic Canada Recap: 

    We hope that this how to guide has cleared up your questions about homeschooling in Atlantic Canada. Please be sure to follow all the rules and guidelines of your province. And if you are still unsure about any of the standards and requirements for your province, please reach out to your local homeschooling group. Local homeschooling groups can connect you with other local homeschoolers. Additionally, homeschooling groups can help you learn the best route to take with homeschooling, along with the legal requirements for your province and region.

    Homeschooling can be a huge transition for your family, so be sure to check out the Schoolio Blog for helpful tips on how to be successful when homeschooling. It’s our hope that you will enjoy your homeschooling journey, and that your children will benefit from this unique education opportunity.

    For general information on how to get started with homeschooling in Canada click here: How Do I Homeschool?

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    Homeschool Mom Self-Care

    Homeschool Mom Self-Care

    Guest Blog by Rebecca Miller

    In the last few years, self-care has become an internet buzz-word. The word itself tends to conjure visions of bubble baths, manicures and spa days. Oftentimes, self-care seems like just another chore on an endless list of jobs that exhausted mothers are expected to complete. We can feel added pressure to make sure we are fitting in yet one more thing. As homeschool mamas, we have so much on our plates. After taking care of our household, our children and our jobs. So how can we be expected to prioritize a pedicure? But what if self-care, as in real self-care, doesn’t look like that at all? What does self-care look like as a homeschool mom? 

    What is Self Care?

    Self-care is something all of us practice daily, or at least we should practice daily. Self-care includes brushing our teeth, fuelling our bodies with food and water.  And believe it or not, even paying bills can be a form of self-care.  Essentially, self-care is taking care of your whole self. You whole self including, physically, emotionally, socially, practically and spiritually. When all areas of our lives are in balance, it helps us have a general sense of wellness. Alternatively, when one or more of these areas is lacking, we can often feel rundown, tired, stressed or depressed. These feelings are ones that you want to avoid, which is why homeschool mom self-care is especially important. 

    What Self-Care is Not

    Self-care is not just about pampering yourself. Because even things that feel awkward and uncomfortable can be forms of self-care. For example: Setting boundaries, washing dishes, and even having a difficult conversation can be considered self-care. Because these will benefit you in the future, despite the fact that they are not enjoyable in the moment. 

    Contrary to popular belief, the term “Self-Care” doesn’t mean selfish. As a parent, it can be extremely difficult and guilt-inducing to practice self-care in the beginning. For people who have been raised to be people pleasers, it can feel uncomfortable and strange to put themselves first. I have personally felt the “mom guilt” creep in when I have taken much needed time for myself to recharge. 

    Self-care does not have to cost money.

    There are plenty of activities that can fill your bucket without affecting your wallet. 

    If you are just starting your self-care regimen. And are finding it difficult to put yourself first, you are not alone. A helpful tip for keeping guilt at bay, is to reframe your self-care in a way that benefits your children. For me, I know that I have much more patience when I am well-rested. So I tell myself “this nap will benefit the kids, because I will have more patience when I am not tired.” When I know that my actions are benefitting my kids, it can help quiet that inner critic. Which makes homeschool mom self-care so much more obtainable. 

    Why is Homeschool Mom Self-Care Important?

    Self-Care is important for everyone, especially during the uncertain times we are facing during the pandemic. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, 38% of Canadians say their mental health has declined due to Covid-19. Reports of anxiety and depression have risen in both children and their parents during the pandemic. 

    Self-care is about taking care of your health so you can be the best version of yourself. It also helps you be the best parent you can be for your kids. The fact is, parents who are well-rested and have full buckets, have more and tend to be more optimistic than those who are tired, stressed and emotionally depleted. 

    Is it selfish?

    While it may feel selfish to take time for yourself. It’s especially important, because showing our kids that we are prioritizing our health, can help them grow into adults that will do the same. We already know that kids tend to mimic what we do, rather than what we say. Therefore if we are constantly neglect ourselves, while telling our kids that they need to make healthy choices, they are likely to think, “well mom doesn’t do that, why should I?” 

    However, when our kids see us taking time to sit and enjoy a cup of tea or read a book, they begin to think “Ok, this is what mom does to recharge.” This is especially true when we include our kids in the conversation. Because even young children can understand when you say, “Mama is really tired right now. I am going to lay here on the couch while you watch your show. I am resting my body so I can have more energy to play with you later!” And while little ones may not catch on right away, in time they will begin to normalize self-care as well. 

    When I was growing up.

    When I was growing up, I remember how hard my mom worked keeping the house tidy, making meals and taking care of the household. I don’t remember her taking time to relax or care for herself. When I became a Mom, that image stuck with me, and I felt that I needed to be that way as well. Unfortunately, as many of us find out, when I neglected myself, I had little to give anyone else. Can you relate?

    It took years for me to get over this false idea that I needed to put myself last. It really is something that so many of us are conditioned to believe is true. Once you can put down those ideas, you will find it easier to practice self-care. 

    Let me tell you a story

    Last year I was working a lot at my job as a support worker. I was trying desperately to stockpile funds for Christmas, so I was taking on lots of extra shifts. I knew from experience that it was going to be hard on me mentally, so I made sure to schedule time to refill my bucket. 

    One day I came home from work to find that my oldest daughter had taken every single article of clothing out of her closet and thrown it around her room. There were clothes and toys everywhere. In my line of work, they teach us that all behaviour is communication. So I knew that my daughter was trying to communicate with me. My initial instinct was to get upset about the huge mess, but because my bucket was full, I was able to approach the situation in a much different way. 

    So, instead of reacting with anger, I was able to step back and realize my daughter needed something from me. And this was her way of telling me that she did. I asked my daughter, “What’s up, kiddo?” and invited her to help me reorganize her closet as we talked. 

    Remaining calm changed the situation.

    I am not sharing this story because I want a pat on the back. Alternatively, I’m sharing this story because the truth is, if I hadn’t prioritized self-care, my reaction would have likely been very different. I don’t think I could have remained calm and thoughtful if I was at the end of my rope. Through sharing this story, I want you to know that by putting yourself first sometimes, you are also doing what is best for your family. Homeschool mom self-care is so important. 

    Finding Time for Homeschool Mom Self-Care.

    Treating self-care as a priority is key. Some homeschool moms wake up before their kids so they can have 10-15 minutes of quiet time as they drink their coffee. Other homeschool moms stay up after their kids go to bed for the very same reason. 

    Another option, depending on the ages of your children, is to tell them that you will be busy for a certain amount of time and they need to work on their schoolwork or activities independently. During this set time you can go for a walk, have a shower, or do whatever self-care activity you’d like. As long as it fills your bucket. 

    Another Option.

    You can also practice self-care in the same room as your children. While your children are in the living room watching a movie, or playing with their toys, you can have your earbuds in while you sit with them, and listen to your favourite podcast!

    Scheduling self-care activities and treating them with the same importance as any other appointment, can really help as well. I have started blocking off times on the calendar for self-care so I don’t forget. The harsh reality is that we tend to find time for things that are a priority. When we say “I don’t have time” it simply means it is not a big enough priority.

    Therefore, putting self-care on the calendar is one way to make it part of your daily routine. Additionally, another way is to set reminders on your phone, to remind you that it’s time to take care of yourself. And you could also set an intention each morning to practice one (or more) self-care activities, depending on what you feel like doing that day. Let’s face it, some days organizing the closet feels more like a chore than self-care!

    Where Do I Start With Homeschool Mom Self-Care?

    The type of activities you choose as self-care will be entirely up to you. Based on your individual tastes and things that you enjoy. It’s really important not to judge your choices. If watching a silly video because it makes you feel good is self-care for you, then do that! No one is allowed to judge your form of self-care. Are you looking for ideas for homeschool mom self-care?

    Here are some examples of homeschool mom self-care activities that don’t cost anything. 

    Self care examples: 

    • Speak with a therapist
    • Talk to a friend
    • Go for a walk
    • Make healthy food choices
    • Take some alone time
    • Have a hot shower
    • Spend time in nature
    • Spend time with pets
    • Laugh
    • Move your body in a joyful way
    • Snuggle with your kids or significant other
    • Sit by the water
    • Journal 
    • Meditate
    • Have a cup of tea
    • Listen to an uplifting podcast
    • Organize
    • Plan a real or imagined future trip
    • Look at funny memes
    • Go for a drive 
    • Make a vision board
    • Paint
    • Sing

     

    Important Reminder: Self-care doesn’t have to cost money and it doesn’t have to be elaborate. Whatever it is that makes you feel energized, joyful and healthy is your self-care. I’d love to hear your self-care ideas and strategies. And I want to encourage you that you’ve got this, Mama. 

    Schoolio Guest Blog

    About Rebecca Miller:

    Rebecca Miller is a seasoned homeschool mom of four children. She has a beautiful passion for delight driven, heart based learning. Rebecca’s goal is to inspire other home educating parents. While creating and fostering a supportive and inclusive community. We are so thankful for her contributions to the Schoolio Guest Blogs!

    You can learn more about Rebecca and Heart Based Homeschoolers on her website: www.heartbasedhomeschoolers.ca

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    Important Lessons Learned From Helping around The House

    “Learning is happening all around us, all the time. Even when we are not following a curriculum, or sitting at a desk with a workbook, educational opportunities arise every day. One of the most common areas that children learn through experience is in the area of housework. There are many important lessons learned from helping around the house. When children are allowed and encouraged to help out around the house (ie. Cooking, laundry, sweeping floors) they learn many skills that they will take into adulthood.”  Read Important Lessons Learned From Helping Around the House.

    How Do You Homeschool With a Toddler?

    “Are you wondering if it’s even possible to homeschool multiple children of different ages? How can you possibly teach your 10-year-old math while your preschooler is asking for snacks every five minutes? How on Earth can you practice reading with your 12-year-old while your toddler is climbing on your lap? How do you keep your toddler busy during homeschool?” Read How Do You Homeschool With a Toddler? 

     

    When Your Kids Are Driving You Crazy

    Homeschooling is all fun and games until you realize that your kids are with you 24/7 and you’re the teacher. There’s really no break for the default homeschooling parent. So, how do you cope? How do you function on those days when your kids are driving you crazy? Let’s find out. 

    First, you need to remember that kids will sometimes be annoying. Especially when they’re trying to figure things out or if they’re just genuinely bored. Did you just start homeschooling this year? This can be a big change, and can sometimes play a big part in their behaviour. As you and your child are both experiencing a major adjustment when they go from traditional education to homeschooling. In this situation, you can start by learning the reason’s behind your child’s behaviour by reading the ‘Why Your Kids Are Driving You Nuts’ blog. 

    Additionally, there are two major categories that you should take a look at when your kids are driving you crazy. 

    1. How to keep your child entertained. 

    2. Ways to get a break as a homeschooling parent. 

    Let’s start with category number one. 

    How to Keep Your Child Entertained.

    1. You Don’t Have to Keep Your Child Entertained. 

      Are you scratching your head now in complete confusion? The first step is how to keep your child entertained? But then step one in that category says you don’t have to keep your child entertained. How does that work? I promise I’m not trying to confuse you, or lead you down a rabbit hole. See, it’s good for your child to learn how to entertain themselves. When you are constantly planning events and play for your child, they won’t learn how to embrace their imagination. Notice how I said constantly. Because planning opportunities for your children is great, just not when you do it all the time.

    The reason is because your child needs to have the opportunity to use their amazing imagination. Being the constant source of entertainment for your child will only deter their ability to entertain themselves. 

    2. Encourage Imagination Play When Your Kids Are Driving You Crazy.

    The beautiful gift of having an imagination. I’m sure that you have fond memories of using your imagination as a child. Perhaps climbing a dirt pile while wearing a beautiful white dress and pretending you were the queen in her castle. Some of my most favourite childhood memories are the ones where I was using my imagination as my main source of entertainment. 

    How can you encourage imagination play for your child? 

    • Put the iPads/tablets/phones/video games away. 
      • Basically just anything that is electronic, take it away. Wait, you didn’t know you can do that? Surprise! You can! Because you’re the parent. So, take away the electronics and place boundaries around when they’re allowed to use their electronic devices.
    • Include free play in your daily schedule/routine. 
    • Show them how to use their imagination.
      • You might have to actually remind your child how to use their imagination, if they haven’t been in touch with it for a while.
    • Get them outside.

    3. Have Your Child Help Around the House. 

    Do my kids enjoy chores? Not always! But I have watched them embrace chores using the gift of their imagination. It’s actually so exciting to see. For example, my son will pretend he’s a recycling truck, when he’s taking the recycling bin to the garage. Chores provide an excellent opportunity for your child to use their imagination while building independence. Additionally, you can use chores as amazing learning opportunities also!

    Turning chores into learning opportunities: 

    • Sorting laundry is an excellent way to learn and refresh the concepts of matching and colours. While also helping your child learn proper organizational skills. 
    • When your child empties a dishwasher or dish strainer, they have the opportunity to learn about ratios when stacking plates of different sizes together. 
    • Grocery shopping with a parent can help your child read out words on different products. 
    • Making their bed can help your child feel pride for doing something to their own satisfaction.

    4. Help Your Child Get Creative. 

    Creativity is such an amazing outlet for both children and adults. Which is why helping your child get creative can guide them to find their unique outlet. So be sure to pick up some creative items at the local craft store. Here’s a fun crafty opportunity for your child to get started: How to Make Stickers – Good to Know. 

    5. Get Active. 

    Are your kids feeling super tired and bored? Get active! Run around outside, play ‘Simon Says’, go for a bike ride, play some hockey or basketball, take a walk in nature, go for a hike. Getting active helps freshen up your child’s imagination. Which then helps them with their creativity. As you can see, getting active has so many benefits. 

    6. Add Interest Learning to Your Homeschool. 

    When you’re always focusing on Math, Science, Social Studies and Language Arts, your homeschool life can become very boring. Adding in some fun child led learning opportunities will help curb that boredom. And giving your child the opportunity to dive into their interests may result in hours of research and creativity. 

    Not sure where to start? Check out our Special Interest Units for unique learning opportunities for your child.

    7. Teach Your Child How to Sew/Knit or Crochet. 

    There’s a special satisfaction that comes with creating your own designs. So, obviously teaching your child how to sew, knit or crochet will for sure pay off. As teaching your child these skills may result in your child spending hours creating. 

    8. Encourage Your Child to Write a Story. 

    They may need a little help with ideas on what to write. So, encourage your child to write a unique story, that they can share with friends or family when they’re finished. Remind them that it’s not always a quick event, writing sometimes takes time. 

    9. Help Your Child Find Books They Love. 

    Does your child not like reading? Maybe they just haven’t found the right material that interests them yet. First, ask your child what they want to read about. Second, get a library card. Third, pick up different reading materials to help them determine which style they like most. Fourth, set a time of the day for independent reading time. 

    10. Listen to stories. 

    There’re so many amazing kids stories out there. But chances are you’re feeling burnt out and not really in the mood to read books to your kids? You can use a story reading app like Audible. Or look up neat podcast series for kids. They will be using their imagination as they listen to the stories play over the speaker. Additionally, while they’re listening, you can encourage them to draw pictures, or write. 

    11. Teach Your Child Mindfulness. 

    Mindfulness is such an amazing practice for you and your child to learn. If you’re unsure where to start when teaching your child mindfulness, research mindfulness teachers for kids. Like the Goldminds program. Goldminds believes in the power of teaching mindfulness strategies to children from a young age, to equip them with the tools they need to regulate big emotions, build resilience and improve self-confidence. Goldminds offers live online classes. You can learn more about Goldminds here.

    12. Play Board Games. 

    Break out the Monopoly! But not just Monopoly, there are some really amazing board games available for kids. So, do some research to find the best games for your family. 

    Step one of what to do when your kids are driving you crazy is now complete. Now we are going to jump into category two.

    Ways to Get a Break as a Homeschooling Parent. 

    Getting a break as a homeschooling parent seems like a myth. Can homeschooling parents actually get a break? You’re with your child all the time. But you’re feeling burnt out, frustrated, over-worked, over-touched, and ready to hide in the dark of your bedroom until your kids are older. Obviously you aren’t going to be able to jump on an airplane and head to a tropical island anytime soon. So, how can you get a break? 

    1. Ask For Help. 

      This is number one in this category for a reason. Asking for help can often feel like a foreign concept for homeschooling parents, because we are used to doing it all. If you break down and ask someone to watch the kids for a couple or hours, it could potentially fuel their thoughts about how you can’t accomplish it all. This is false thinking on your part. You’re human, and every human needs a little extra help sometimes. Asking a friend or family member to watch the kids for just a couple hours once a week, can give you that oh so important time to yourself. 

    You might feel afraid to ask for help, but you really don’t need to. Asking for help is healthy, and a part of everyday normal life. And, it’s not just for you. Getting a break will benefit your children also. Because their parent will be refreshed, and they’ll learn that it’s ok to ask for help for themselves, too. 

    2. Schedule a Homeschool Break. 

    During this homeschool break you can take the time you need to reset and refocus. Your child can utilize their creative skills that we talked about above. And you can spend time doing the things that you have neglected during the rigorous daily schedule that you’ve been trying to maintain. 

    3. Have Mandatory Quiet Time. 

    Scheduling in 20 minutes of quiet time everyday will help you have time to reset during each day. The noise and chaos of the day can become overwhelming sometimes. So being sure to have 20 minutes of quiet time will help you get back in the right mindset before taking on the next task of the day. Your kids can read, write, play in their rooms, or play outside during this time. 

    4. Play Some Music. 

    I don’t know about you, but music fuels my soul. When I’m feeling burnt out, frustrated, and in desperate need of a soul refresh. I turn on my music. Music has the ability to lighten up our whole house. If we’re all having a rough day, music gives us the chance to dance and laugh and find joy again. 

    5. Wake Up Early. 

    It might be tough at first, but waking up early is essential as a homeschooling parent. Spending time first thing in the morning without your kids in your face is hugely important to the mental peace that you will need for the day. When you wake up, be intentional about having gratitude for all the amazing aspects of your life. Along with the tough aspects that challenge you. 

    6. Exercise Away From The House. 

    Going for runs is my lifeline. Typically a run will be my go-to at 5am when my household is still asleep. Knowing that my husband is home with the kids, I can safely and peacefully challenge my body and refresh my mind with exercise. Run, walk, go to the gym, whatever works for you. Just be intentional, because being intentional about your exercise and alone time will benefit you in many, many ways. Including preparing you for when your kids are driving you crazy. 

    7. Head to a Coffee Shop With Your Friend. 

    Obviously, you are going to need someone to be with the kids. For example, I do this when my husband is home, or if they’re in a co-op/gymnastics class. I take the one hour window to chat with a friend, and just be me, the person that can get lost in the process of homeschooling, parenting, and working. 

    Homeschooling is a challenge especially when your kids are driving you crazy.

    You will have days in which everything goes so smoothly and you feel like you are on the right track. Alternatively, you will have days when your kids are driving you crazy and you desperately want to hop on a plane and get out. 

    When you figure out how to keep your child entertained by teaching them to entertain themselves, and find ways to get a break as a homeschooling parent, you will be on the road to success. Just remember to be patient. Good things don’t come over night. They often take lots of time, and practice. With time, your family will find it’s groove and it will be smooth sailing. Keep aiming for it, and you will reach it. 

    The 20 Do’s of Homeschooling

    In the last blog we covered the major ‘don’ts’ of homeschooling. The things that you should try to avoid at all costs, if you want to be a successful homeschooling parent. If you haven’t already read it, you can find it here: 20 Don’ts of Homeschooling. Today we are covering The 20 Do’s of Homeschooling! Let’s jump right into the homeschool veteran approved, 20 Do’s of Homeschooling. With the goal to help you be a successful homeschool parent.

    The 20 Do’s of Homeschooling 

    1. Do Take Care of Yourself First. 

      This is the number 1 ‘Do’ of The 20 Do’s of Homeschooling because it’s imperative that you take care of yourself, first. I get it. You think that’s selfish. But I can assure you that it’s not. Taking care of yourself before you take care of everyone and everything else is essential to the well-being of your family. And also the success of your homeschooling journey. A homeschool mom that cares for herself, is a happy, healthy mama. What are some ways that you can take care of yourself today? 

    Here are some quick and simple care tips for the busy mom: 

    •  Carve out a chunk of time to read your favourite book.
    • Enjoy a hot drink on the park bench as your kids play at the park. 
    •  Wake up early (before everyone) and sit outside with the rising sun. 
    •  Talk to someone that lifts you up. 
    • Take a walk. 

     

    2. Do Find Your People. 

    Have you found them yet? Your tribe? Your team of people that just get you, help you and guide you? Every mom needs an encouraging, supportive community. Finding those people that can be your cheerleaders, your encouragers, and even your advisors. Will benefit you and your family hugely. That doesn’t mean that you are seeking out the people that will constantly pour into you while you offer nothing in return. Rather you are looking for the people that will offer something special in your life, while you offer them your gifts in return. An equal friendship. 

    3. Do Eliminate Toxic Relationships. 

    Do you have someone in your life that is constantly dragging you down? Perhaps your old friends group is completely against your homeschooling decisions? Now every time you have a conversation with them, you feel like you’re a failure and a mess. You don’t need that kind of negativity. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are eliminating them from your life completely. 

    Perhaps these friendships were once abundant and life giving. In this situation, instead of eliminating the friendship, you can put a pause on the relationship until you and the other person are in a better place to revisit the friendship. Your focus cannot be on negative interactions at this time. Because right now you need to focus on cultivating a healthy, wholesome, and positive education for your children. 

    4. Do Keep Things Simple. 

    Sometimes as homeschooling parents we can be our own worst enemy. Are you constantly assuming that you aren’t doing enough as a homeschooling parent? Do you have that ever present urge to add more curriculum? More practice sheets? And more structure? Unfortunately, sometimes as homeschooling moms we can become addicted to adding more to our homeschool. Do you want the cold, hard truth? All these extra events, lessons, and workbooks are actually doing absolutely nothing for your homeschool. In fact, they’re doing the opposite. When you are constantly adding in more, you are inevitably overwhelming your homeschool and causing a high level of unproductively. 

    5. Do Cut the Extras. 

    Number 5 of the 20 Do’s of Homeschooling goes along with number 4. Because maybe you’ve already added a bunch more to your homeschool? Maybe it’s way more than you actually need? Now you’re feeling the heavy weight of overwhelm? So, go ahead and cut out all the extras. Seriously, do it! Shave down your curriculum to the very basics, as least just for a time. Do less, but do it best. The truth is, less is more.

    6. Do Read Aloud. 

    Reading to your children has many benefits. Some of them being that it improves concentration and vocabulary. While also building their self esteem. Reading to your child can also help them develop their own reading skills. But one of the best benefits of reading to your children? The fact that this simple act helps to build relationships. You can learn more about this here: 12 Reasons Why It’s Important to Read to Your Children – Caribu.

    7. Do Snuggle and Hug Often. 

    Homeschooling grants the opportunity to connect with your children even more. Even just rubbing their back while they work through their math problems is such a gift. So, be sure to take advantage of all the extra hugs and special moments you can share.  

    8. Do Include Fun In Your Homeschool. 

    There’s nothing wrong with adding fun and games to your homeschool. Unfortunately there’s this misconception around education. And that is this idea that if your child is having fun, they clearly aren’t learning. While as of late, this twisted idea is phasing out. It’s important to take action and sprinkle fun into your homeschool. Take a break from books, and add in some fun games! Pinterest is flourishing with fun homeschool games that your kids will love. So go find some that your family loves and utilize them. 

    9. Do Be the Boss of Your Schedule. 

    Are you trapped in the mindset that your schedule must look like the public school’s calendar? Or that your schedule must appear like that of your super organized homeschool friends calendar? Snap out of it! Aim to have a daily routine that suits your family, not someone else’s. Check out these simple ways to establish a good homeschool routine: Establish a Good Homeschool Routine. 

    10. Do Take a Break From Homeschooling.

    Homeschooling takes a huge mental effort. Due to that effort, it can lead to burn out quickly. So, aim to take scheduled breaks throughout the year. If you find yourself in between homeschool breaks, and you are tired and burnt out. Take a day or two off to reset. They’re called mental health days, and they’re always vital. Especially when you’re feeling like a train wreck. So, take a break and reset. 

    During this time your kids can play educational games, or watch educational shows. Actually the other day I saw a post in a homeschool group about a mom laying on the couch as she was so sick. And she said she had moved her homeschool to the living room. Her post gave the idea that she was still teaching, even though she was very ill. And while I have to admire her determination. I also want to point out that you as a homeschooling parent, are entitled to a day off. Especially if you’re sick. So, please do take a break from homeschooling should you need it. 

    11. Do Look At the World Through Your Child’s Eyes. 

    It’s so important to value what your child values. When you pay close and careful attention to what matters to your child, they will begin to also pay close attention to what you share with them. It’s so important to remember that what is valuable to your child matters. Everything about your child is important. Their ideas, and creations, their work, their interests, their stories. They’re valuable. So, listen. 

    12. Do Celebrate All Accomplishments. 

    You should always focus on what your child is doing right. So much more than what they are doing wrong. When you focus on all the good that they do, they will continually aim to do greater. If your child writes a sight word, but spells it incorrectly. Don’t immediately correct their mistakes. Instead, comment on what an amazing job they did writing the letter ‘b’. Include the phrase “You did such a great job!” frequently. Doing so builds their self-esteem and helps them have enthusiasm to continually improve. 

    13. Do Remind Yourself That You Are Not Behind! 

    Homeschooling should run at your families own pace! It’s also important to remember that when you are working at your child’s own unique pace, it’s impossible to fall behind.  Read that again. It can be so hard to stay out of the comparison trap and assume that your child is behind. But they aren’t. They are working at the pace that they need to. And you are doing an amazing job helping them with that. 

    14. Do Place Importance On Personal Growth.

    Do your children see you constantly aiming to be a better version of yourself? Spending time in the morning reading, investing in personal development, or listening to positive affirmations? All of these are going to help you keep your head above water and own the person that you are meant to be.

    Personal development is extremely important for you. And also just as important for your children. Including important lessons about mental health, and ways to take care of their mental health is so important in the younger years. Encourage your child to constantly work at taking care of their mental health just like they take care of their physical health.

    Use The Emotional Health Management unit to help teach your children about their mental health, and ways to cope when things get tough.

    15. Do Listen to Podcasts and Read Books. 

    Podcasts are just such an amazing part of our digital world, that so many people don’t even use! So many of my friends don’t even know how to listen to podcasts, but it’s so simple. Your phone should have a podcasting app on it. Like Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Google Podcasts. All you have to do is open the app, then in the search box, look for podcasts that speak to you. Like ‘Parenting Podcasts’, ‘Homeschooling Podcasts’, ‘Genuine Mom Podcasts’, or ‘Personal Development Podcasts’. Listen to some episodes and then subscribe to the ones that you like the most. Then that amazing content will be added to your phone whenever they release a new podcast. And, it’s FREE! 

    Additionally, finding books to help you in every area of your life is essential. I really prefer podcasts because it’s so much easier for me to listen then it is for me to sit down and read. However, there are some amazing apps like Audible, available. Where you can purchase and download a book that will be read to you. You can make a list of books that you’d like to read, then one by one check them off the list when you’ve completed each one.

    Pro tip: Subscribe to helpful blogs like The Schoolio Blog, to read amazing blogs like “The 20 Do’s of Homeschooling”.

    16. Do Expect to Make Mistakes. 

    No one is immune to mistakes. Because perfection doesn’t exist. If you’ve chosen the wrong curriculum for your family, or you’ve neglected a certain area of study. Just know that we all make mistakes, and that’s OK. Don’t get stuck there.

    17. Do Give Yourself Credit. 

    You are homeschooling your kids. What? Do you ever just think about that. Was this in your original life plan? No? But look! You’re doing it. You aren’t perfect, but you’re trying. And you’re doing such a great job. We often don’t give ourselves enough credit which is why it’s essential for you to give yourself credit for all that you’re doing right. Instead of always focusing on all that you’re doing wrong. 

    18. Do Make Goofy Memories. 

    I don’t want my kids to remember their time homeschooling as a time where their mom was constantly forcing them to answer math problems. Instead I want my kids to remember this time with fond memories. Are bad days going to happen? Absolutely. But my hope is that the good days are the ones implanted in their memories forever. The days when we painted the playhouse outside, or had a food fight at dinner. You’ve assumed the role of their educational teacher, but that doesn’t mean you have to leave fun mom on the curb. Bring fun mom with you, even when you’re doing Language Arts. 

    19. Do Understand That You Will Have Some Haters. 

    Homeschooling isn’t for everyone, just like traditional education isn’t for everyone. Will you have people constantly asking why your children aren’t in school? Yep. Will you have that one family member that is always telling you that your kids should be in school? You bet! Is someone going to constantly be asking your kids math questions to measure how behind they are? Probably. Despite the fact that homeschooling has become so much more mainstream in the last 5 years. It still is looked down on by so many. Because people often don’t like that which they cannot understand. 

    It’s not your job to make them love homeschooling. And it’s not your job to prove yourself to them. It is your job to love your kids, to educate your kids, and to give your kids a safe environment to learn and grow. Forget the haters. 

    20. Do Know That One Day You Will Be Thankful For This Sacrifice. 

    Homeschooling is a sacrifice. It’s a sacrifice of your time, your own freedom, and often your mental sanity. Not many people can do what you’re doing. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought to myself or verbally stated to my husband that I should just put the kids in school. It seems so easy, watching the kids leave on the bus, and knowing that someone else is covering their academic lessons. Sometimes I think about how freeing it would be to just have whole days to myself to work and maybe clean the house. But then I remember that I’m doing this for them. I remember that my children need this extra one-on-one time with me. My children wouldn’t excel in a class with 30 other children crammed in desks and herded outside for recess. I have to remind myself that my children are receiving a wholesome education, that is tailored to their needs. 

    And while the sacrifice is great, the reward will be incredible. Not just for them, but for me also. Because I get to keep these memories forever. 

     

    We hope that you enjoyed the 20 Do’s of Homeschooling. Don’t forget to check out the 20 Don’ts of Homeschooling (linked above). What was your favourite ‘Do’ of the 20 Do’s of Homeschooling?

    20 Don’ts of Homeschooling

    Is there some magical way to become a better homeschooling parent? Well, learning the right way to do something and the wrong way are both important. We’ve compiled a list of things you don’t want to do as a homeschooling parent.  So, let’s jump to the 20 Don’ts of homeschooling. Created and approved by veteran homeschool parents that know what they’re talking about. 

    The 20 Don’ts of Homeschooling

    1. Don’t Overwork and Overwhelm Your Kids. 

    Keep your lessons short, sweet, and simple. Many homeschoolers think that they need to cram in an abundance of ‘work’ during school time. In order to keep up with traditional education. Don’t do this. When you overwork your kids with workbooks and lessons. It can actually overstimulate them and cause them to become overly frustrated with their education. When you choose to overwhelm and overwork your kids, you are undeniably choosing stress for them. And that stress is a quick step to a learning block. So, don’t do that. 

    2. Don’t Over Schedule. 

    Homeschooling in itself takes up a huge part of your day. Additionally, the default homeschool parent is often the one that is also responsible for housework, and for some, working from home too. Therefore you should always aim to keep your family’s schedule light. Society has this way of making us believe that if our kids aren’t in ballet, ice skating, gymnastics, basketball, hockey or some other extracurricular activity. That they won’t be on the same level as their peers. That’s false. While it can be nice to have those extra activities, it’s vital to protect the schedule.  Perhaps your child is extremely talented in one area and you want to cultivate that – that’s totally fine. I’m not saying you should give up on all extra activities. But, over scheduling with activities that they probably don’t even enjoy? What’s the point? Stop over scheduling. Aim for a simple schedule instead. 

    3. Don’t Overwhelm Yourself. 

    Number 3 of the 20 Are you the type of parent that is quick to cut up your 9 year olds waffle for him? Stop. Let your child learn how to be independent. Doing so by allowing them the opportunity to actually accomplish tasks on their own. When it comes to class work, are you sharpening the pencils? Are you sitting at the table for hours while your child finishes each question of their lessons? Don’t do that! There’s a reason this is number three on the 20 don’ts of homeschooling. Because it’s important.

    If your child is old enough, implement checklists for homework. This can look like ‘Today you need to complete pages 90 – 93 of your Language Arts.” If you know that it’s just practice work, and you don’t necessarily need to teach them directly. Then allowing them to use a checklist to complete these tasks is an amazing habit to get them, and yourself into. Teaching your kids to be independent is one of your greatest goals as a parent, so aim to reach it!

    20 dDon’ts of Homeschooling pro tip for teaching multiple grades: Click Here

    4. Don’t Compare Yourself. 

    Please, please, don’t compare yourself to other parents. Don’t compare yourself to other homeschool parents. Above all, don’t ever compare your child to another child. Doing so will just create a complex in their mind and put them on the comparison path for the rest of their life. Rather you should remind yourself that your kids are unique, you are unique, and your homeschool is a reflection of that. Everyone is going to be a little different. And, every homeschool is going to look a little different. 

    5. Don’t Tear Other Homeschoolers Down. 

    This is just as important as being sure not to compare yourself to other homeschooling parents. You should never, ever criticize someone else’s homeschooling style. Why? Because you really never know when their style will become your own. Homeschooling changes, constantly.

    As your children grow, your homeschool changes. You’ll find different ways that work best for your children. Often (most) times one way of learning will be great for one of your kids and absolutely not for your other kid. It’s easy when you first start homeschooling to assume that you are going to continue to homeschool in that specific way forever. But, you won’t. Your homeschool will change and evolve. A homeschooling style that seemed to be totally foreign and off the rails for you, just might become the style that you end up gravitating towards one day. 

    It’s also just really important that we should never criticize another individual whether behind their back or to their face. It’s not kind. This is especially true for homeschooling families. Rather than criticizing, we should be supporting them while also learning from them. Homeschool families need to stick together, whether your styles mesh or not. 

    6. Don’t be Afraid to Experiment. 

    This is why it’s also so important not to criticize other homeschooling styles. Because it’s paramount for you to find your own style, schedule and even curriculum that works best for your family. Changing things up is a great option when things are getting messy and no one seems to be enjoying the homeschooling journey. Please don’t be afraid to change things up! 

    7. Don’t Imitate a Public School Classroom. 

    It’s totally fine to have a schedule, we aren’t saying that everyone should just jump to unschooling. But listen, if that’s your jam than obviously – do it! The point is, you don’t want to get tied up by an unrealistic schedule. It can be hard to wrap your mind around what an alternative educational model can look like when you’re accustomed to the public school model alone. 

    8. Don’t Feel That You Need to Cover It All. 

    You don’t need to jump into every subject the first day, week, or even month. Homeschooling is often a really big adjustment for the whole family. So instead, you should give your family and yourself time to get familiar with your learning content and routine. Focus on one or two core subjects, and sprinkle in something that your child really loves! This could be art, music, physical education, or even a nature study. As time goes on, you can start to sprinkle in the other subjects. 

    9. Don’t Cram It All Into One Day. 

    I feel like I’ve said this before. But that’s fine. I’ll say it again, especially for the 20 don’ts of homeschooling. Because it’s an important point that needs to be recognized. You do not need to do Math, Science, Social Studies, Language Arts, French, Arts and Music all in one day. Schools don’t even do that! When you choose to homeschool in this way, your child can’t properly grasp all the concepts that they should be grasping.

    It’s so much better if you choose one or maybe 2 subjects per day. Take time to really dive into them. Look up neat videos to go along with your lessons. Check out library books, do research together. Find different ways to teach a certain concept. And then reiterate the lesson using different styles (on different days). You can do this until you’ve figured out the unique way that your child learns at this time. Notice I said “at this time”, because their learning style will change. 

    10. Don’t Belittle Your Children. 

    This really is just a general tip for parenting. But we can cross it into homeschooling as well. If your child is trying to dig deeper into a topic, or is struggling with something and trying to tell you that they are. Don’t ignore that. Never assume that it’s just ‘them’. And belittle them into getting the work done. Never belittle your children, period. Adding onto that, just please never belittle your children in the name of getting them to accomplish their school work. It’s not worth it, and can and will have lasting negative effects on their lives. 

    11. Don’t Be a Taskmaster. 

    I get it. You want to get all the work done so you can enjoy an amazing winter break with no school work, just holiday music playing and cookies baking in the oven. Regardless of that goal, you should never turn yourself into a taskmaster on behalf of trying to have your children reach their goals on the timeline that you have created. You don’t want to get to the point where your children think of school as yet another chore they must accomplish. And, you don’t want your child to look at you and think ‘Now what does she want me to do?’. I know you want to aim to get it all done, and quickly. But that kind of crammed learning isn’t learning. It’s chaos. So don’t do it. 

    12. Don’t Force a School Day. 

    Did your kids wake up with runny noses and they’re complaining of sore throats? Are your children just really tired from a busy weekend? Maybe you’re feeling exhausted and needing a break? Then take one. You don’t need to force a school day just because you saw the school bus go by the window outside. Because your child will not fall behind because you took a breather. Forcing school on a day that you know no one will want to participate will really cause more frustration than good. 

    13. Don’t Teach When You’re Frustrated. 

    DON’T TEACH WHEN YOU’RE FRUSTRATED. This ‘don’t‘ of the 20 don’ts of homeschooling is really, really important so I had to write it twice. Never teach when you’re frustrated. As a homeschooling parent you will still have life to deal with on top of homeschool. Sometimes you can be teaching a simple lesson of math, the day seems to be going great. Then all of a sudden your youngest comes in with a suspicious grin.

    You hear a weird sound and notice water running down the hallway. Suddenly, you come to the horrific realization that while you were happily teaching math to your older child. Your younger child tried to dump their crayons in the toilet. Now there’s a flood down the hallway and you probably need to call a plumber. Ok, Math is done for the day. The frustration you’re feeling in that moment will only come out in your teaching style.

    Even if you think you can suffocate the feelings, you can’t. It’ll come out in your body language. If you know you are frustrated, avoid teaching until you’ve gotten yourself into a better headspace. That doesn’t mean you should give up on the lesson for the day. It means you refocus, regroup, and come back to it when you’re more relaxed and able. 

    14. Don’t Add More Curriculum. 

    It’s tempting, when you’re walking by the piles of curriculum books at Costco to think ‘Oh this would be great practice work!’. You don’t need to do that. As homeschoolers we are constantly feeling like we need to do ‘more’. Or like our kids aren’t learning or doing enough. So, this feeling of ‘adding more’ just continually pops up. Your child did their Science lesson quickly and didn’t fuss? Does that mean you should add more practice? Make it harder for them? Absolutely not! Learning doesn’t need to be crammed in there, and difficult. It should be simple, fun, relaxing and engaging. Finding that balance will make a world of difference. 

    15. Don’t Fall For Homeschool Parental Guilt. 

    You are doing enough. And your kids are learning enough. Also, your home is clean enough. And your kids are eating healthy enough. We love to torture ourselves with these ideas that we just aren’t enough. Or like someone else is doing it better, so why can’t I? Stop! Turn the switch off when it comes to homeschool parental guilt. It literally ally gets you nowhere. Your kids really are learning enough, and you are truly doing such a good job. There’s no room for parental guilt, because you are totally filled up with positive affirmations on how awesome you are. 

    16. Don’t Assume That Your Kids Are Behind. 

    They aren’t. Your kids are right where they’re supposed to be. Let go of this idea that your child needs to be in the standard for their age group. Your child is unique and their learning style reflects that. Maybe your child is 9 years old but is reading at a grade 2 level. That’s ok. Your child isn’t behind, they don’t need to catch up. Just move along at the pace that works for your child and yourself. Then all the pieces will fall into place when they’re supposed to. 

    17. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help. 

    It’s so good to ask for help and support when you need it. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t strong enough to be a homeschooling parent. 

    18. Don’t Worry About Messing Up as a Homeschool Parent.

    Life is messy! Literally everyone messes up sometimes. Some people just clean it up faster or hide it better. If you’ve messed up as a homeschool parent, learn from that mistake and move forward. 

    19. Don’t Get Stuck in the Oops! 

    If you did mess up, or loose your temper, or taught your kid the wrong concept. Don’t get stuck in the mistake. Look at it as a learning opportunity for you too! When you’ve mad a mistake, own it. Take ownership of your mistake, apologize, and strategize how to move forward in a positive way. 

    20. Don’t Underestimate Yourself. 

    You are more than capable of teaching your children. Be proud of the choice that you’ve made. Embrace the unknowns, and work diligently towards the future. Because you are capable of accomplishing some really, really amazing things. I’m so proud of you, and I hope that you are too! The very fact that you are searching out ways to be an amazing homeschooling parent, like reading the 20 don’ts of homeschooling, speaks volumes. Don’t cut yourself short, ok?

     

    Did you enjoy the 20 Don’ts of Homeschooling? Stay tuned for the 20 Do’s of Homeschooling, coming soon!

    Do you have any ‘don’ts’ to add to the 20 Don’ts of Homeschooling? Let us know!

     

    Is School Giving Your Child Anxiety?

    Is school giving your child anxiety? Read the following short story and decide.

    It’s morning, and you just spilled your coffee all over the counter because you forgot to put a mug underneath the coffee spout. You finally got the coffee disaster cleaned up, only for your youngest child to spill their cheerios all over the floor. The dog has started to devour all the cheerios off the floor, then promptly begins to vomit it all up.

    All the while your oldest child has been following you around because she wants to tell you about how her friend stole her idea for a robot that serves ice cream in their imagination world. With all the chaos going on around you, you glance over at your middle child who is dressed, hair brushed, eaten her breakfast and put her bowl in the sink. You love that your middle child is so self-efficient because on days like this, it’s just so helpful. 

    Then you look at the clock and realize that your kids are officially late for school drop off.

    So, you quickly rush them out the door, yelling “We’re late, we’re late, we’re late!” You hustle everyone to the van like some sort of weird celebratory parade that you do every morning. Finally, you get to the school and say the famous mom words “Love you! Have a good day!” Off goes your oldest child and your youngest. You glance in the very back of your van to notice that your middle child appears to be glued to her seat. “You better go honey, you’re already late.” But she doesn’t move.

    You mumble in frustration as you head to the side door to open it to get her out. “Come on, this isn’t like you! Let’s go!” Still she seems frozen in place. “What’s wrong? Are you sick?” You ask in confusion. “I think I am mommy. My tummy is hurting so bad.” You encourage your child that she’s ok and that she needs to go to school. Still your sweet little one appears to be uneasy, and afraid. 

    Finally, she gets out of the van.

    Cars behind you in the drop-off line are now honking their horns in impatience. “Ok! You need to go now!” But still, she is holding onto your hand as if there’s a terrifying monster standing in front of her. ‘What is happening?’ You ask yourself. She was fine this morning, she’s always the one that seems to just do what she needs to. Why is she acting like this? You then decide to just take her home with the assumption that she’s experiencing a tummy bug. Then when you get her home, she’s fine. The next day repeats itself, only this time she’s crying in the backseat, shaking with fear. Unfortunately, you feel that you must be tough on her and get her to go. Because, well, it’s school! She can’t miss it. 

    What’s going on in this situation?

    Anxiety. Although we like to think that our children won’t be affected by anxiety and depression, that’s simply not the truth. In fact, children are just as vulnerable as adults to suffer from anxiety. In fact, according to the CDC: “7.1% of children aged 3-17 (approximately 4.4 million) have been diagnosed with anxiety.” CDC – Children’s Mental Health 

    “70% of mental health problems have their onset during childhood or adolescence.” – Youth Mental Health Canada.

    In Canada it is estimated that 1.2 million children and youth in Canada are affected by mental illness. View Youth Mental Health Canada. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association – British Columbia Division – The most common illness to affect children and youth is anxiety. In Canada it’s estimated that 6% of kids will experience an anxiety disorder at some point. Mental Illnesses in Children and Youth – Canadian Mental Health Association. 

    The number of children struggling with their mental health is alarming, but what’s more so alarming? The fact that despite these high volumes, less than 20 percent will be able to receive the right treatment for them. 

    Is school giving your child anxiety?

    Some children have been known to struggle with anxiety that is related to school. Some triggers include: Bullying or conflicts with other students, test anxiety, academic pressures, a new teacher, riding the school bus, a specific class or subject. There are many different factors that can trigger anxiety when it comes to school.  

    Many families are able to identify the very reason why their child is facing a heavy weight of anxiety when it comes to school. However, some children are able to hide their anxiety. Or act out in other ways, causing families to assume there is something else that is affecting their child. In some cases, children really can’t identify the concern or fears that they have around school. 

    If your child is struggling with anxiety and school,  or is refusing to go to school. It’s really important that you find out if your child is being bullied, if they have other medical problems, pain or some other serious issue. Whatever you suspect, it’s always important to meet with the school, and a family physician to be sure. When you’re questioning ‘Is school giving my child anxiety?’ 

    What are some signs and symptoms of school anxiety? 

    Emotional Symptoms can include: 

    • Anxiety/fear/excessive worry 
    • Irritability
    • Anger
    • Embarrassment 
    • Loneliness 
    • Sadness

    Physical Symptoms can include: 

    • Frequent Urination or diarrhoea  
    • Headaches
    • Muscle tension/pain 
    • Dizziness/light headedness
    • Pounding/Racing Heart
    • Shaking or trembling 
    • Feeling short on breath 
    • Stomach-aches or a painful abdomen 
    • Vomiting 

    Behavioural Symptoms can include: 

    • Being overly clingy, not wanting to separate from their parent. 
    • Crying and tantrums. 
    • Incessant complaining. 
    • Not turning in their homework. 
    • Frequent calls or texts to parents. 
    • Skipping class or even cutting school. 
    • Lying about circumstances or feelings. 
    • Trouble concentrating. 
    • Isolation from others. 

    Some thoughts that your child might be thinking: 

    ‘What if the other kids laugh at me?’ 

    ‘Why do I have to go to school anyway?’ 

    ‘I’m not good at school. I fail.’ 

    ‘What if daddy forgets to pick me up?’ 

    ‘If I fail this test my mom will be mad at me.’ 

    ‘What if I throw up in class?’ 

    ‘I don’t like recess, it’s cold and I get scared of a thunderstorm.’ 

    ‘I just want to be home in my room.’ 

     

    Are you asking yourself how this happened?

    ‘My child was fine and suddenly just started to not be ok at school. What did I do wrong?’ First of all, don’t blame yourself. Parental guilt will only make you and your child feel worse. Is school giving your child anxiety? Was it something else? The important thing is, to find healthy steps to move forward from here.

    Let’s take some solid steps to help your child that is struggling with anxiety and school. 

     

    The first step is to identify any potential triggers.

    Look for the triggers that might’ve started this decline with anxiety and school. Is your child being bullied or struggling with peers? Did your child just get a new teacher or has a harsh teacher? Does your child struggle with tests? Have you noticed your child’s anxiety to be much worse since covid? Perhaps the fear of catching the disease, or wearing masks, or lockdowns, has caused them to feel a large amount of fear? Find out what could potentially be triggering these feelings. 

    Second, notice if they’ve been trying to tell you about their anxiety in other ways. 

    Anxiety can be really scary, especially for a little person who doesn’t understand what they’re feeling. Has your child previously said phrases like: “The work is too hard!” “I can’t concentrate in class.” “It’s so tiring, I hate it.” “I’m going to fail the test.” “I don’t fit in.” “I saw someone getting bullied.” “Joey keeps making fun of my clothes.” These phrases and concerns aren’t just complaints. Sometimes they can be cries for help. If your child brings any of these complaints to you, always dig a little deeper to see what the root cause is.

    Third, ask more questions.

    If your child has brought up concerns like those above, ask lots of questions! Even if your child is rolling their eyes at you. While pretending that you’re annoying them, you aren’t. Most kids actually enjoy your interest in them and in their day. If your child hasn’t brought up any concerns, but you can just tell that they are feeling off – ask questions. Even if your child seems totally normal, ask questions. Dig deeper.  Teaching your kids that it’s good to talk, and that it’s good to bring up their concerns – is so healthy. 

    Fourth, reach out to their school. 

    If your child is struggling in any area with school. Then reaching out to their school is imperative as working with their educational team is so important. Most schools and teachers are more than accommodating when it comes to mental health. So if you are wondering ‘is school giving your child anxiety?’ then this is an excellent step to take. 

    Fifth, give your kid a ‘Worry Journal’. 

    What’s a worry journal? It’s a place where they can write down all of those big, scary, feelings, that are causing their struggles. In the worry journal, they can write, draw, or doodle. Really, whatever they want. It’s their journal, and they can utilize it to express their feelings in whatever way seems best for them. 

    Sixth, find helpful coping strategies to help your child. 

    There are so many amazing programs out there that are fully capable of helping your child navigate on those tough days. Including our very own Emotional Intelligence: Managing My Emotions special interest unit. With this special interest unit your child will learn about why it’s just as important to take care of our minds as it is to care for our bodies.

    What else will they learn?

    They will also learn ways to name and describe common “unhelpful thoughts” that lead them down thought paths which make them less happy. And lessons on the S.T.O.P.P. strategy for regaining control and assessing the situation when their emotions are high. Along with management tools for runaway thoughts, and how to control their reactions. They’ll also learn lessons about calming strategies, for when they need to gather themselves and regain control of their emotions. 

    Click here to learn more about the Emotional Intelligence: Managing My Emotions Special Interest Unit

     

    Seventh, help your child understand that they don’t need to be afraid of their feelings. 

    When we don’t understand what we are feeling it can make it seem much more scary. Helping your child understand that they don’t need to fight those scary feelings can be very helpful. Along with helping them learn the important steps to cope through those big feelings. Above all, telling your kids that you’re there for them no matter what is of the utmost importance. 

    Eighth, consider switching up their education. 

    Is school giving your child anxiety? If you know that school is the main culprit of their anxiety, and you’ve tried to work with their school to help them. But nothing appears to be working. You can try to switch up their education, at least for the short term. A lot of children have been experiencing anxiety around school because of the uncertainties that the pandemic have caused.

    As a result, there has been a significant amount of parents pulling their children from school to homeschool them.

    And many parents have stated that online school/homeschool has actually been good for their child’s mental health. Obviously, there’s no scientific data to back up their claims. But the parents who are with their children full time, should have a pretty accurate view point. Homeschooling is obviously not going to be the best alternative for every child that is struggling with mental health concerns. However, homeschooling has proven to be beneficial for many. 

    Benefits of homeschooling.

    Some obvious benefits of homeschooling include: More one on one time with the parent. Minimizing stress and anxiety. No bullies or peer pressure. And in some cases homeschooling has been known to minimize depression that many students experience because of traditional schooling. 

    There are many more benefits of homeschooling, including the freedom for your child to embrace who they really are. While also allowing you and your child to create a schedule that fits the needs of you both. Additionally, having a flexible schedule can give your child more time to play sports, go to social events, and have day time opportunities that they wouldn’t have otherwise. 

    Is school giving your child anxiety?

    There are many ways to help your child overcome the anxiety about school that they are facing. Just remember that this often takes time and a large amount of patience on your part. Showing your child that you are there for them, patient with them, and on their team will help immensely. 

    Giving them options so that they don’t feel stuck is another excellent way to help them overcome the anxiety that is pulling them down. 

    For a first hand look at a mama who had her child struggle with anxiety and school, check out this awesome blog with Meredith Blunt.

     Read her story and what she did to help her child with school anxiety.

     

     

    Disclaimer: We are not licensed therapists or mental health professionals. If your child is struggling with a mental health condition and you are not sure what to do, please see your doctor for the proper steps to help them.

     

    Additional Resources for this blog:

    School Refusal – Anxiety Canada 

    How Does Anxiety Affect Kids in School? – Child Mind Institute 

    Anxiety in Kids – Anxiety in the Classroom 

    Data and Statistics on Children’s Mental Health – CDC 

    Global Student Network – Is Homeschooling Good For Your Child’s Mental Health? 

    Youth Mental Health Statistics in Canada – YMHC 

    Mental Illnesses in Child and Youth – Canadian Mental Health Association 

    Should You Quit Homeschooling?

    Have you ever felt the untameable feeling that you should just give up on homeschooling your kids? Maybe it’s the frustration from always trying to get your kids to do their math? Mixed with exhaustion, and guilt about how you should be doing more for them? All these feelings have mixed together to make a cocktail of negative feelings about giving up on your homeschool. So, should you quit homeschooling? Or should you investigate further to see what the deeper issue is? And how to help it? Let’s find out. 

    Remember, homeschooling can be a challenge. 

    Let’s not sugar coat it. While it’s true that anyone can homeschool, the fact is that it still can be an exhausting venture. One that will drain you, while simultaneously filling you up. There’s really nothing like it. Sometimes homeschool parents will look at all they have to accomplish in a day and think ‘Why? Why am I torturing myself with all this extra work?’ So, why are you doing it? Should you quit homeschooling? Let’s investigate further.

    Should you quit homeschooling? 5 questions to identify. 

    It’s important to ask yourself a series of questions when contemplating whether or not to give up on homeschooling.

    Question 1: Is this still benefiting my family? 

    Despite the tough days, is this still the best education plan for your family? 

    Question 2: Are you just facing some bad days?

    Our minds like to focus on the negative. Are you dwelling on the tough times more than the good? Dwelling on the negative can lead you to believe that things are worse than they actually are. Are they just experiencing some bad homeschool days? Or is your whole homeschooling system actually not working for your family? 

    Question 3: Are your kids still benefiting from homeschool? 

    Think about your kids, are they thriving off of their home learning plan? Or are they struggling with it? Don’t just think about the bad days and how your children did on those days. You need to also remember the good days, and how your children thrive during those times. Let me ask you again, are your kids still benefiting from homeschool? 

    Question 4: Do you want to make this work? 

    You can’t mess with a determined parent. Are you still determined to educate your kids at home? Then those feelings of wanting to quit homeschooling are temporary. And aren’t aligned with what you really do think is best for your family. 

    Question 5: Are your kids learning? 

    Chances are that’s a yes. Homeschooled children learn in such unique ways. Because they have the opportunity to learn the way that they need to. While not being rushed to master concepts in a timeline that isn’t their own. Are your kids learning? 

    If you answered yes to most or all of the questions, (or even just one of these questions) then I’d say that you’re on the right track. We all struggle sometimes with homeschooling and just parenting in general. Occasionally, we may feel the intense feelings of wanting to give up. 

    Despite the overwhelm, are you determined to make homeschooling work? Yes? Then let’s take a look at some things you need to do to get back in the right mind-set for homeschooling. 

    You need to: Remember your reason why.

    Why are you homeschooling? What’s the reason behind the decision to take on such a  huge challenge? Is it perhaps the desire to provide your child with a better education? Or maybe your child needs a little more one on one education time? Are you keeping your child home due to the pandemic? Or maybe school anxiety has become too overwhelming for them? Whatever your why is, it’s valid and it matters. Year ago, when I first started homeschooling my kids,  I remember someone telling me that I was doing it because I was being selfish. Selfish? How? I took time to investigate those claims. And the more I thought about it, the more bitter I became about their response. They believed that I wanted more time with my kids, therefore I was being selfish by keeping them home with me. I remember those accusations leaving me utterly overwhelmed. Could I be selfish for making this choice? I let their idea of what my ‘why’ was, interfere with my actual reason why.

    I look back on those claims now and shake my head. Homeschooling because you’re selfish with your child’s time? Come on! That’s not even slightly realistic. Homeschooling parents are far from selfish. On the contrary, homeschooling parents are the ones that are giving up their free time, and so much more. Homeschooling parent have to learn how to balance their children’s education, parenting, home life, relationships, social lives, and work. That’s not selfish. That’s strength. Dwelling on the words of someone with a negative opinion will only bring you down and cause you to doubt your decisions. Finding your why is important, but equally important is not allowing other people to distract you with their unrealistic ideas of why they think you are homeschooling.

    Let’s recap this point: Find your why, and don’t allow others to tell you what they think your why is. 

    You need to: Note your surroundings and circumstances.

    Generally, the feelings of overwhelm and frustration when it comes to homeschooling stems from frustrations regarding your current circumstances and environment. Did you read the November Homeschooling Slump blog? If you didn’t, check it out here. There are certain times of the year when homeschool parents report feeling like they’re in a slump. A combination of the shorter days, prepping for the holidays, and the excitement of the new school year being gone, has led you to a slump. Occasionally, when you’re caught in a homeschooling slump you may feel like giving up on homeschool. Should you quit homeschooling? When you start to question if you should quit homeschooling, it’s really important to note your surroundings and circumstances.

    Are you in a slump? Is your family experiencing a little bit of cabin fever from the shorter days and less activities? These can all lead to moments of questioning what you’re doing. It’s important to take a look at your surroundings and circumstances and remember that these things will pass, before deciding if you should quit homeschooling. 

    You need to: Identify why you’re feeling this way. 

    Once you’ve taken the time to properly observe your surroundings and circumstances, you can properly assess why you’re feeling this way. Do you genuinely not like homeschooling? Or are these feelings a result of that slump you’re in? Identifying why you’re experiencing these big feelings can be crucial in navigating your way through it. 

    You need to: Remember why you started in the first place. 

    Now that you know why you started homeschooling in the first place, dig deeper into it. Write it down. Grab a notebook. Then pencil in all the reasons you chose to homeschool your children. We can become so caught up between workbooks, grading, our children’s attitudes, and outside activities. That we lose sight of our initial joy for home-learning. That lack of joy leads us to thoughts like: ‘Should you quit homeschooling?’ 

    You need to: Maybe get a new why?

    Sometimes our lives change, our family situation changes, and our circumstances and surroundings change. Often times the greatest changes will be from our children. They’re constantly growing and changing into the people that they will become. Perhaps your reason for homeschooling is no longer valid. So adopt a new reason why. You will more than likely think of a new reason why in no time.

    You need to: Set your biggest struggle subject aside for a week. 

    Yep, you read that right! Is your child struggling with Language Arts? Put it away for one week. In its place, add in something interest based for them instead. Watch how this simple reset can help your child refocus. 

    You need to: Chat with experienced homeschooling parents who have been where you are. 

    There will always be people that have gone before you. And there will always be someone who has gone through roughly the same experiences as you. Chatting with these experienced (veteran) homeschoolers can help when you’re feeling frustration and despair regarding your homeschool. Even if they don’t offer a huge mountain of advice. It can often help lift your spirits just by chatting with someone. So, don’t be afraid to reach out and talk with some veteran homeschoolers. Their wisdom may just be what you need to keep going. 

    You need to: Drop those comparisons. 

    Comparing yourself to another homeschool family will only cause a mountain of grief and frustration for yourself and your kids. Alternatively, comparing yourself to a family whose child is in traditional learning is just a bad idea. The point is: Don’t compare yourself or your family to any other family. Whether homeschooling or not. It’s a recipe for disaster. When you spend time focusing on how your homeschool should look like someone else’s. Or how your child needs to be learning the same concepts and at the same pace as another person’s child. You’re missing the whole point of homeschool. See, you and your family are unique. And, your homeschool reflects that. So, please don’t get caught up in the comparison game. 

    You need to: Change Your Homeschool Path. 

    Has your homeschool always been traditional? But now one of your learners seems to be benefiting from an unschooled learning method? It’s OK to change things up. Sometimes we get stuck in this idea that we must continue homeschooling the way we began. But it’s really important to remember that things change. If you feel that you need to change up your homeschool a little to better suit your learners, schedule or yourself. That is OK. Changing the plan doesn’t equal failing. Changing the plan can actually be good for your kids and yourself. If you’re finding that your child just isn’t thriving off of your current homeschooling methods, then experiment with other methods of learning and see what happens. 

    You need to: Stop Homeschooling. 

    Wait! Hold on! I don’t mean forever. I mean stop and take a break. No one likes the idea of falling behind when it comes to homeschool. We are all aiming for the spring weather when we can put the books on the shelves and run outside in the fresh spring flowers. Even so, you won’t fall drastically behind if you just take a week or two to reset. Often times when the homeschool mama is feeling like quitting, it’s because the homeschool mama is tired, drained and overworked. Taking a week off to take care of yourself will be beneficial for everyone. Let your kids play legos, or draw pictures while you spend some time reading a book. Taking these little breaks from the routine homeschool life can really help to regain your focus, and get you and your family back on learning track. 

    You need to: Connect with your children. 

    Do your children dread the moment you say “Time for Math!”?  Have you put your responsibilities as a homeschool teacher above your natural parental tendencies? It’s really important to reconnect with your children especially if you’ve found that you have been forcing the homeschool teacher role more than your natural born parenting role. Take some time to just hang out with your kids, without the pressure of workbooks or TV’s/iPads distracting them or you. It’s important to take time to just be the family that you were before you became a homeschool family. 

    You need to: Ditch the schedule. 

    I have to say, one of the main reasons that homeschool parents begin to feel that they want to quit is because they’re holding themselves up to these crazy expectations and schedules. While routine is obviously beneficial for both your kids and yourself. Sometimes we can become too consumed by the schedule and plans. Homeschooling is supposed to be different from traditional education. That’s why it’s called home schooling. Your education can now evolve around your home life. And you don’t need to snap everyone into an intense schedule to be able to help your children learn. Check out this blog about scheduling your homeschool for some excellent ideas on how to have a great homeschool routine. 

    You need to: Find Joy in Learning again. 

    Do you remember that moment when your child learned something new? And you actually saw it click in their mind? You saw light fill their eyes, and you knew in that moment that this is why you wanted to homeschool your children. Because you wanted to help your children have those moments of pure learning bliss. Perhaps you used to take long walks in the rain when their school work was much less in the younger years. During those walks, you would chat about the water cycle. But now you are just too busy trying to make sure all the workbooks are completed. Just remember, workbooks aren’t the only form of education. Aim to find joy in learning with your children again. 

    Educating your kids is an enormous task. But such an important undertaking. Sometimes when something is a big deal and really important to us, we sometimes feel like we are failing. And therefore assume that we must quit what we are doing. The reality is, things that are important to us are often hard. If this were easy, everyone would do it. So, don’t assume that just because you’ve had some tough days you should automatically just give up. This task is large, but it’s worth it. So, should you quit homeschooling?  

    Don’t give up. Keep going. 

     

    Check out this amazing article by a veteran homeschool mama, Jennifer.

    What to Do When You Feel Like Quitting Homeschooling – The Deliberate Mom